or am I being over-sensitive?

[LolaTheShowgirl]

I recently found out that I have polycystic ovaries and more recently found my womb is eroding. I didnt even know that wombs can erode so I am shocked. My chances of concieving now is very low and I am really upset. I told a few close people only and one of these people who I saw today has had a sore throat for the past few weeks. I was really sore today with pain and so I was complaining to this person that I was feeling unwell today, to which she replied 'aren't we all'. This didnt really bother me but I then asked, which would you rather have, a sore throat or my illness to which she replied my illness. She knows what I am going thru and I was upset she replied with this and still it is on my mind.

That's a tad insensitive - YANBU!

How are you feeling tonight?

I'm sorry to hear of your illness Is there anything the doctors can do with any eggs for future use? (perhaps surrogacy or something?)

No I don't think YABU at all. Poor you, sometimes when you're poorly it's hard to see that sometimes some people have it much worse than you though so I wouldn't be too upset with your friend.

oh Lola, that is awful. You are of course not being at all unreasonable. Your 'friend' is really insensitive.
Like Lewisfan said, have you sought more advice on your condition and what steps you can possibly take?
Please don't give up hope. A lady I know was told 10 years ago she could never have children due to treatment she'd had years before and she had no eggs. I dontated my eggs to her and she has a lovely little boy of 8 now plus another from another egg dontated by someone else. Dont' give up hope xxx

Lola I have chronic eroding uteral lining due to endometriosis. I've been told I will need help in having children. I'd be upset if someone compared this pain with a sore throat. It's completely different and I hope you have recieved the support you deserve.

I'm so sorry about what you're going through....maybe she was just feeling embaressed and hoped it would stop the conversation?

Sorry to hear about your illness, that's so so upsetting. But please don't be upset by what this person said. You were both feeling low and your problem wasn't at the forefront of her thoughts. It was kind of an awkward question that you asked - if she'd have answered (correctly) that she'd rather have a sore throat, she could have come across as even more insensitive for rubbing it in that you're worse off. It's pointless to compare illnesses anyhow because if you feel like crap, it doesn't help knowing that someone is better or worse off, you still feel like crap. I'd write it off as a duff bit of communication and concentrate on taking care of yourself.

How nasty, poor you.

what pinkdelight said

Wow, with friends like these, who needs enemies! Hopefully she was just in pain and not thinking straight and will probably feel awful at some point later. If this is normally her attitude I'd drop her as a friend, tbh.

Not unreasonable at all.

I am hoping that she must have "forgotten" (somehow) and thought that you just had a cold . Its quite nasty otherwise.

Hope you feel ok.

It was a really stupid thing to say, but if it was a one-off then I'd let it go. People seem to say all sorts of insensitive things and it's only when they have to go through something similar themselves that they understand what they should have said to you.
I'm really sorry about your condition, by the way.