Feel a bit hurt, but don't know if im making a mountain out of a mole hill.

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Im sure you are all going to tell me "not to be so silly and to get over it", but I do feel a bit hurt.

Thought long and hard about what to get my mum and her partner for xmas, as they are quite hard to buy for.

Ended up getting them tickets to Joseph and his tech/col dream coat at our local theatre. They cost me £25 each. I booked the 5pm showing so that it wasnt too late for them to drive home, They go into town every saturday anyway so thought they could still go to their favourite shops and have tea in their favorite cafe as normal then go onto the show.

Mum phoned me the other day to say "hope I didnt mind but could mums partner give his ticket back as its not his cup of tea and would I go with mum to the show or otherwise she will give her ticket back as well, as does not want to go on own"!

What would you do/say??

I would say I would love to go with you, mum, thanks.

She could have worded it more tactfully!

YANBU to feel a little bit hurt.

go with your mum, joseph's fab

Unless he wants money in lieu of ticket then go. Sounds a bit tactless though.

I would do the same as NAB.

not really on. in fact quite rude. would'nt kill him to sit through a show. but i'd smile and go with her.

It might be tactless, but I think it is far more sensible to give the ticket to someone who would like it.

Wouldn't mind the bit about the partner not wanting to go - I'd love to see Joseph with my mum, but would feel a bit miffed at mum in effect saying 'unless you come with me I'll be giving you the tickets back'. That would bug - I'd expect them to act like grown ups and go and see it with an open mind.

If that makes any sense at all?!

Sounds a lovely present but you obviously did not get it quite right if it is not her partners cup of tea.

I would just say 'tanks Mum I'd love to go with you' and enjoy the show.

And next time buy them theatre vouchers so they can choose their own thing.

Go with your Mum and have a fab time. Shame for her that she is 'stuck' with such a close-minded and unadventurous partner.

I would have booked the tickets for me and my Mum in the first instance. You therefore sound a much nicer person than me for including him.

I do think, in the grand scheme of things, that it's a molehill (unless there is other stuff going on?) but I totally understand why you're upset.

, go to the show, have a great time and tell your mums dp that you had a fab time, and thanks for offering his ticket, he cold have asked one of your mums friends or one of his relatives the ticket.i think it was nice of them to think of you first..much better than tickets going unused!

sorry should have been could not cold! lol

Go, and in future just put cash in a card...miserable, ungrateful sod.

Sorry should have given a bit more background. Mum loves going to the theatre, her partnr is more into second world war things. When we go out togther or away for the weekend together, we always make sure we do something "War" related to include him, even though it boars the pants off DH and me.

I suppose I feel hurt for mum more than me, that he would not go to just one show, knowing mum would love it. But then I also feel a bit hurt that my mum didnt say to him, "DD has gone to the trouble of getting tickets, I want to go, dont be rude, you will like it when you get there"!

pehaps your mum would prefer to go with you all along and shes secretly releived/delighted! sorry but her DP sounds like a right boring old pain in the arse fart!

Much better to go with someone who will enjoy it than someone who is there on sufferance.

I wish I had a lovely daughter like you to be so thoughtful to me. You're a sweetheart, and who wouldn't feel a bit put out that their thoughtful gift was responded to slightly tactlessly? I would too. Yanbu.

But also, do go with your mum and have a fabbie time!

Go, enjoy it and make sure he knows how much you enjoyed it. She'll enjoy it all the more for being with you rather than someone who's there under sufferance.

And don't make such a big effort for him next time.

I think that is fair enough.

It's a shame that your dad doesn't want to go, but make the most of it and go with your mum and have a fab time. It's a great show!

Oops, not dad, mum's partner

Thanks everyone, yes I am going to go with my mum. Its his loss!

Well - a difficult one - you bought them knowing that it was your mum's thing but not his kind of thing? Not surprising really then that he wouldn't want to go!

Bit tactless of your mum though.