to think if DH says I can stay in bed he should let me do it!

[Stefka]

Am very tired and grumpy.

DS has been very unsetteed all week and has had me up several times each night and early every day. I do all the nights and mornings as DH works or has college to go to. But he has been off since Thursday afternoon and after another bad night I asked him if he would let me go back to bed once I had fed DS.

He's still in bed. He just wouldn't get up. He's tired because he's was out late with friends on Friday night and out with a friend all day Saturday. He'll be back at college/work tomorrow so today was my only chance to get a lie in. I know they are a luxury when you are a mum but he did say I could have one and now I am really pissed off!

i never confronted my first husband about anything at all because i was so afraid of what would happen. finally towards the very end of our marriage i cracked a few times, and was amazed to discover when I stood up for myself and gritted my teeth through the sulkiness stage, he actually reacted much better than I thought he would. By then it was MUCH too late.

Why not start from the point that you don't want to have more weekends like this, you'd actually like the whole family to enjoy life more, and communication is often the key to this (like his extra job, for example - I've no doubt you are right about him putting it off last night).