AIBU to go away without my dp?

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I'm considering going away for 2 weeks, possibly a month to volunteer abroad, either at a wildlife sanctuary in Namibia, or with orphans/street children in Peru.

Dp doesn't think he'll be able to go as he's busy with his PHD. He seems to be happy for me to go alone, but now I'm beginning to feel guilty.

We will have a holiday together later in the year, but I'd love to do this, but perhaps it wouldn't be fair to leave him for so long.

I wouldn't mind him going away to do this without me, though I would miss him desparately, as I will if I go on this trip.

AIBU to go away for up to a month without him. We don't have children yet so that isn't an issue.

YANBU

Do it while you can, i wish i had! YANBU

YANBU - you may spend forever kicking yourself if you don't go.

Absolutely not. He has said he can't but is happy for you to go. He is pursuing his own thing. Go- it sounds really worthy.

That's reassuring.

I think he'll be glad of the peace and quiet actually.

I'm leaning towards Namibia, only because the Peru trip is something that I'd love dp and I to do together.

He'd love Namibia also, but not quite so much as Peru. He adores children and is a kid magnet.

Kids are drawn to him, and just about every time we meet someone's kid, they take him by the hand and try to drag him off to their room to play. He'd be in heaven in Peru, he's a bigger kid than any that could be found in the orphanage.

YANB remotely U. Go for it. Enjoy it.

Prekids Dh went interrailing around Europe with some friends for the summer. The following year I travelled around Australia with a girlfriend for 3 months. Now's the time to do it, have fun

YANBU at all and it will be the opportunity of a lifetime.

I went away for ten weeks before I had my DCs, minus DH. It was an amazing experience. I look back now on my travels around the South Pacific and thank goodness that I took the opportunity.

At the time lots of (much older) people in our families were a bit scandalised, but I chose to ignore them .

I think I'll make it a month then. No point in doing things by halves.

That's the spirit!

2waytravel

This is a South African company, not Namibia, but if you haven't got something all lined up already, it might be worth looking at their website. They have some great contacts with organisations in South African who are desperate for help on a million different levels.

YANBU, do it now or regret at leisure!

TY Bling. I'll check that website out too. I haven't booked anything yet, and I'd love to see SA too.

If your DP is happy for you to go alone,then YANBU.

YANBU
Go and enjoy it