In expecting the teacher NOT to shorten my sons name?

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Gahhhhh!!!!

In the grand scheme of things, it's not the end of the world, but it's driving me up the wall!!!

His name is Brennan. Not Bren and most certainly not fucking Brennie!!!

I am possibly being fucking precious, but if i'd wanted him to be called Bren i would have put it on his birth certificate

I did ask before crimbo - very politely, i may add - for them not to shorten his name, but ealier we were a little late going in and had to knock, and when the TA opened the door she said.. 'Alright, Brennie?'

I can see your point MagnoliaStar but that is your choice-it is not under the control of your mother.

who has time for three syllables?

Who are you that you don't? In fact, how do you have time to MN if you can't take the time needed to say Benjamin??

My daughters teachers sometimes call her Loose instead of Lucy. I'd prefere Lou-Lou really if they had to shorten it. It dosn't bother my daughter in the slightest, she's not even 4 yet but it does make my cringe a bit. It makes me think I should have chosen a different name, one that can only be shortened to something nice.

You can speak to the teacher until the penny drops but you are fighting a losing battle!

I reckon if you go on and on and on and on to the teacher about your child's name the teacher WILL think you are right PITA and you WILL be marking your card at the school and possibly that of your ds.

Something to mull over?

Not read the whole thread but you are being precious imho.

YABU. The name belongs to your child, not to you. For all you know, he may have asked people to call him Bren, and the TA is being friendly and sweet to add the -ie. What does it matter what he is called at school (as long as it's not "pig features" of course!)?

it really is just a term of endearment, the teachers have a fondness for him then. yabu, sorry.

I would find it irritating...

I have a son who could have a shortened name and the teacher asked what she should call him. I asked her to ask him as he was perfectly capable of answereing. He said the full version.

I was a teacher and never shortened names even if there were multiples of the same name. I only shortened of the child asked me too. I also followed the parents lead, if the parents called them Brennen, I called them Brennen.

My nephew is called Xavier (zay-vee-er) but my dad insists on calling him ex-zay-vey-er much to my brother and Sil's annoyance.

Stcik to what the parents call their child -theya re the experts!

I hate it when people call my son Ollie(Olly?), its Oliver!

I know that one day he is bound to be called Ollie by his school friends and i don't think i will mind that, but whilst he can't talk to say otherwise, its Oliver!

People call my Oliver Ollie and while it sounds very odd to me I dont object as it always seems to be done affectionately.
I actually really like Ollie but it just doesnt suit him imo

Sorry, but I always find this extremely precious.

I like it when people shorten my name. I think it's affectionate, and makes me feel at ease in their company.

My son's name can't be shortened, but I certainly wouldn't take umbrage. And telling them not to say it is just going to make it worse, imo.

this years (year 4) teacher shorted dd's name from 3 syllabals to two, and the TA has shorted it to one!!
but she did ask her at the beginning of term, and did point out to her that she had previously had a girl with the same shortened name so it woudl be easier for her!

i don't mind.

i think to myself, i call my dh by his shortened name, which his mum never liked, so
c'est la vie!

Well i spoke to boyo about it tonight - and he definately prefers Brennan.

Quote 'But my name's not Bren.. it's Brennan'
Unquote.

I probably won't go to the school specificaly about it, but i may bring it up at the next meeting we have.

I know it's trivial, and may be petty to some people, but it's the name his father and i chose for him, and hubbs would spin in his grave if he heard people calling him Bren!!

The only way he is going to get his full name is if he is the one that insists on it-all the time.

YABU
It is not for you to determine what other people call your child although you may wish that it was....you cannot control everything...I understand that it is annoying but it just isn't your call anymore. You can decide what you call him and that's it.

as a teacher, i usually tried to go by the name pupils/parents requested, unless it was a ridiculous nickname dreamt up by the football team, in which case parents hadn't even heard of it. that was at secondary.

someitmes found a sticky problem when child wanted one thing, and parents another!!

technically, i think they have to stick to what is on register, to stop divorced parents from constantly trying to get the last name of their choice.

if it's the TA, though, they tend to have more 'informal' relations with the child.

it really annoys me if teachers persist in using a version which no-one else does. are they deaf or something?

as others said speak to them. I would only call a child / person a shorterned name if that was their preference. (have fingers crossed that my children will not want theirs shortened)

I use full versions unless the child says 'Actually, I prefer Beth to Bethany' or whatever.

If it's a name that's very commonly shortened, I might ask 'Do you like to be called Samuel or Sam?'.

I always use full versions on reports or when ringing parents, unless I know the parents definitely use the shortened form.

My basic rule is 'If in doubt, use the full version'.

Sometimes I slip up - I have one class with 3 Toms & 1 Thomas - if I do inadvertently call him Tom, he winces & I apologise!

So YANBU to tell Brennan to correct teachers & TAs if he dislikes the shortened form. He'll almost certainly be Bren by secondary school, tho', I'm afraid.

WheresMummysValiumKids, my DS1 is also Gregory and still most people call him that (aged 6). However, his best girl friend calls him Gregs which grates as it makes me think of greasy sausage rolls in paper bags. He doesn't comment so I leave it between them. We chose the name because we don't mind the usual shortened version of Greg, so maybe that's a consideration for any of you growing one at the moment.

IMHO, teachers can be requested to use your version of a name (and corrected) but what other children use is up to your child (unless they enlist your help).