To find my wife physically repulsive?

[pedro70]

I am no oil painting and do not want someone else but I can't help recoiling when my wife gets too close. She has really lost her looks since kids started arriving 5 years ago and now lots of things make my skin crawl - like the way she eats like a cow and drools in her sleep. I can't help feeling like this and please don't start saying 'perhaps she feels unattractive because...'. There is no way I am leaving the kids but don't know what to do to change the way I feel??? I can't be the only one, surely? Generally we get on fine but can't think it is a good thing that I find it embarrasing going out in public with her. I know I am being unfair and I do love her but this is an honest post! I would never upset her by saying anything nasty to her directly but not sure I can pretend to fancy her for the rest of my life. Like I say, I am not criticising her as she tries her best to look good but she will admit she has aged a lot! AS I ADMIT, I HAVE BEEN HIT WITH THE UGLY STICK SO NOT A CASE OF 'I AM TOO GOOD FOR HER!'

Everyone is berating the poor OP here, but come on girls - has this woman no respect. Not only does this man provide her with five years worth of children, goes out to work and provides for his family, he still makes the effort to to be seen with a woman who eats like a cow and drools in her sleep. How is the OP going to feel valued if he comes home from work and doesn't find her waiting for him in full make up, or at least having wiped the food from around her face - and as for regurgitating the food to rechew it, thats fucking gross!!! Imagine rolling onto a wet patch and find its the pillow and its stale spit - uuugghhhh, i bet she ties her hair back in a pony tail too.

OP im sorry but its time to move on, she clearly has no respect for you or herself - you need to make a stand otherwise your children will grow up to be slobs too.

desperate ...how dare you ...are you suggesting my DH is a bigamist

Ih My God! Pedro, are you my DH?

Maybe the op should try posting in the style section for a few tips

Lulu swore.

surely a wind up?

Just be grateful she doesnt have a ginormous smelly fanjo too...then you would be in trouble.

Can I suggest a paper bag and possibly some kind of quilted Bounty arrangement under her mush at night?

could you blend her food and give her a straw?

What about a nice cut out picture of say, Vanessa Feltz? Shes a hottie! Stick that to your wifes face?

Cant afford a spray tan? Steep her in a bath full of old tea bags!

PMSL at Lulu, where did you ever find that!! Don't mind if I borrow it, do you?

pmsl - DH is that you

calls himself Pedro - pmsl

pedro70 dont expect sympathy from this lot! they are all middle class and men are beneath contempt. did u read the bit in the independent recently if it was a woman posting this they would say get rid of the slob and find someone who looks after themselves

Lulu, that is great!!!

i stole the phrase of another MNer and the troll spray icon from califrau IIRC.

i am not origional , no sireee!

I just got DH to read the Op, no sign of guilt or recognition so I am in the clear, phew

agree, this MUST be a troll

what a sad twat

suggest op looks in a mirror - obv has some kind of complex imo!!

i dont undesrtand the troll thing - the op must be a real saddo imo

PMSL lulu- LOVE the pic

a comment about how i looked from my h 6 yrs ago was the beginning of the end of my marriage, which i finally got out of 3 yrs ago

funnily enough he was complaining about me being a size 12 (then), after 4 kids, 3 under 5, one under one

he had put on 6 inches round his waist in the same time but in his mind that was ok

i lost 200lbs of excess weight overnight the day i dumped him, and look a lot better for it too

I wonder if there isn't, actually, a bit of a valid point for discussion here. Bad table manners and poor personal hygiene are offputting in a partner, and while it's easy to get into the habit of wandering around in a food-stained tracksuit, picking your nose and farting, because you have got used to your partner and think, vaguely, that you 'love each other really and should accept me as I am'.
While obviously most people have too much to do to spend all their time being perfectly groomed and seductive, if you want to live in a long-term monogamous relationship, you do need to make an effort to show each other your best side now and again ie dress up and go out or something - and close the bathroom door when you're having a crap.

Please note that I have made the above as non-gender-specific as possible because I don't think it's remotely a gender issue.

Maybe your dw is trying to tell you something but doesn't have the heart to play the bad guy?