to be hurt about a friend/family member... I genuinely don't know!!

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DSis spotted last night that a semi-family member (not blood related but close to my mum etc) had her facebook status saying she had her baby (not due for a month).

DSis sent a congratulations comment, and called mum this morning to let her know.

I went to leave a message and to say that mum has had phone issues and doesn't have her number, can she give her a ring, congratulations etc...

She has removed me (and it turns out my sister) from her friends!! We're assuming it is that and not just completely deleted her account (which seems unlikely - she is on there a lot).

Mum is going to be really hurt AIBU to be upset by this?? Mum has done a hell of a lot for her over the years.

yes and no. she's probably going through a hard time - a bit shocked at early arrival with usual new baby grot and pain - so more prone to acting irrationally. and don't tell your mum about the facebook thing.

I can't not tell her though or she will think I have left her a message asking for her number

Tell your Mum there are problems with the website. Not strictly untrue...

How do you know she has removed you from her friends? I've always been led to believe that if you remove someone in Facebook they have no way of knowing? I've had a number of culls (mostly of people from a previous forum I used when there was a mass flurry of "add me to your facebook" posts

You can know if the person isnt on your friend list anymore.

The only way you know is when you try and send em a message and they are gone from your friends list.

It is looking more like she has deleted her account though , found pics of her, everyone else tagged was clickable and her name isn't, and I know it was 2 days ago.

I am starting to get a bit concerned tbh Worried she is having hassle from someone.

Going to have to tell mum the truth I think. If there is something going on, then she could help.

If she had deleted you and blocked you then it would look like that too I think (sorry).
Can you use anyone elses account to search for her? Then you would have a better idea.

It was on DBiL's account that we found the unclickable name

erm, could you phone her and see if she is okay?

If you search for her does a small icon and the "add as a friend" link come up? If so, she's still on there and you've been culled. If not then she's removed her account.

I ditched someone and they didn't realise for a month (complete bitch) and in retaliation my DH got ditched by her oh I love the politics of FB!

Facbook does remove some friends if the relationship was only "temporary". Basically if you had been her temporary friend, maybe by her sending you a photo or vice versa? then facebook gives you a months friendship/access to one anothers details. It then deletes you without telling either of you.

If you had actually clicked and accepted a friend request then you are permanent friends. Gosh, I need to get a life.

lol - this is the problem, we were contacting her via fb due to mum having killed her phone and lost her number, and my number for her being an old one .

Hoping mum knows her new address to find her that way. She has no useful family, and is a young girl alone with a new baby

She doesn't search any more, which is why we're thinking maybe deleted?

Update: Tracked her down As suspected, all is not right but we have found her and she apologised for worrying us.

glad you managed to contact her. Hope she's ok though.

i think she will be now