to feel as though I'm being stalked?!

[onthepier]

I feel a bit uneasy about this, but I don't know if I'm being silly.

My dd is very friendly with a girl in her class, who often comes over to us after school or my dd goes there. I've always got on with both her parents although her dad is far more extrovert than his wife, and as it's always him who does the pick-ups we chat more.

Anyway, we turned up at a school function recently and he asked me out of the blue what I was doing in 1995!!

Nothing particularly sprung to mind, then he said he had a newspaper cutting of me and my work colleagues, having won an award, (I do remember us all having our pictures in the local paper for this). He said he had the picture at home, and was quick to add that he'd kept that certain page for another reason and happened to look on the back and see my photo! I didn't know him then by the way, have only got to know him in the last few years.

My dh has always said he hasn't liked him, he can't say why but says there's "something" about him that feels wrong. He thinks this is very strange and would rather I steered clear, I must admit it's a strange coincidence considering how long ago this picture was published, and wondered what others thought.

You say he's extraverted, but is he generally socially savvy or socially inept?

Without knowing more ... I don't know!

He may be socially inept and/or have a photographic memory. Give him the benefit of the doubt on this situation.

I would have thought it was far more likely to be a coincidence - that he has had the paper for years, and just happened to look at it.

If he didnt know you then, would he have known you to stalk you, IYSWIM.

Does your DH tend to be jealous? Or do you think this person is weird? Is he chatty with others or just you?

If you think he is weird then I would probably be quite swayed by that, but DH could just be jealous?

In answer to your questions, yes, he's very sociable + chats to everybody, not just me. My dh isn't the jealous type, but he's quite introverted unless he knows people very well, the complete opposite of this person!

You're right, it could well be a coincidence, I suppose I was just a bit surprised considering the amount of years that have gone by!

He might have good reason for keeping an old newspaper - if he had graduated or won and award of something then he might be in it, which would explain him having it.

If this is the only thing that makes you concerned the I think I would forget about it unless something else happened.

V hard call actually, but if I were you I'd be proceeding on the basis of how much confidence you have in your DH's assessment of the situation....is he normally suspicious of others without good reason/evidence?

I'd check the newspaper archive/library records - then you'd know.

I've re-read and, on reflection, as you have said you're uneasy and your DH has said he feels there is 'something' not right I would listen to my instinct. The newspaper thing could easily be wild coincidence but ime (and depending on what kind of people you are) it's fairly unusual to both feel 'uneasy' about someone.