To still not visited my nan in hospital despite being in for nearly a month (long)

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My much love nan is in hospital and is suffering from severe confusion not dementia as she has had a cat scan. It started as a result of a uti and the drs said it will go once she was better. She is better now but it still hasn't gone. She now recognizes my grandad - her husband of 62 years and also my mum most of the time. Beyond that she varies with knowing her age or how many grandchildren/gtgrandchildren she has. She is unaware that we have just celebrated christmas. Anyway I was all for visiting right from the start. However my mum keeps onsaying whats the poing she wont know who I am and it will upset me too much. Also has pointed out that my brother has decided not too because he will be too upset to see her like this. Even said once that as its 2 to a bed it would prevent her or grandad from visiting! However mil keeps saying I should go and has offered to babysit. AIBU to have not gone yet? Should I or should I wait until her confusion has eased or whatever iyswim?

I think you have to go but yes as TFM points out, be prepared to cut it short completely if she appears distressed by any confusion.

But i would certainly go, personally.

I went last night to visit my nan with my mum and grandad whilst my dh babysat. I was unfair about my mum last week. Yes she was trying to protect me and now I've been I totally understand why. Also the 2 round a bed rule was mentioned because my inlaws had asked me just before christmas if they wanted to come with them to visit (they didn't visit in the end for different reasons!) Anyway she just was not the nan that I know it was awful. She thought I was Mrs Tibbins whoever Mrs Tibbins is!!! She was in another world a time right back in her childhood! Glad I went but it was awful truly awful.