In being sooo annoyed with DH's and his EXP

[SteamingRightNow]

Im a regular, but have name changed. My DH's EXP (and also the mother of his kids) seems to think my DH is at her beck and call whenever she needs something, and im getting pretty fed up!
Whenever she needs something doing in the house, or feels like a chat or something, she calls my DH.
She has just called as she went to town last night in her car, i presume got drunk and got some other way home, so has now called my DH for a lift to town to pick it up, as the busses arnt running and theres nobody else, and he said yes.
When i started to get pissed off with the face that DH said yes, he got angry with me saying why is he the one in trouble because all he is doing is doing her a favour!!

So AIBU?

difficult one.
did he leave her?

most people come with baggage frankly.

and
how long ago did they split up?

better to be amicable surely?

i think i would leave this one as it is only going to be an unfocused row.

i would talk to him later about how generally you feel upset with how much he does for her and that it makes you upset. Ask him if you can set some parameters and ground rules so you all know where you are.

It was more of a mutual split. Yeah i know he has baggage, and i dont mind if she calls regarding something to do with the kids, but when it has nothing to do with them???

they split years ago, and we been together a few years too.

So, because they have a past, he should be there for all her needs in the future?

The ground rules seem like a good idea, but at the end of the day he is an adult, and adults don't usually conform very well to be told what to do.

It is best for him to be on amicable terms with his ex if they have children together and - unfortunately - for some exes that comes hand in hand with having to do things you don't necessarily want to do to keep the peace.

I wouldn't be pissed off with her - after all, he has the ability to say no, doesn't he?

I can see the general gist here is its me BU, but its not like she is sat alone with no friends etc, she has friends, and a BF, but it seems she always turns to my DH for help or a pick me up etc... grrrr i guess ill just have to live with it then.

Very cheeky of her - and very odd of your dh to be at her beck and call.

You are not being unreasonable at all!

do you get on with her?

Thanks Panto... needed that!

I try to not have too much to do with her

(thanks for reminding me to ditch the Christmas name, btw!)