Dd started rehearsals for her panto 2 months ago, when she started we were told by the dance teacher that if she missed any classes she wouldn't be able to do panto.
We said ok, bit of a pita around christmas time and all but dd really wanted to do it.
Dd had been asked to be godmother to nephew , cristening was supposed to be in March, unfortunatly Fil has terminal cancer and it has been brought forward to Jan4, great - rehearsal day.
Dd wasn't too worried before telling teacher as a few girls has missed rehearsals already - nothing said.
When she told her however she said she couldn't go to cristening and be in panto.
I spoke to her two weeks ago to let her know she couldn't do the 4th.Teacher said that she should have been told dates earlier,When i said we had only found out the week previously she asked me as if she didn't believe me "For a Cristening?".
I started to say "Family circumstances", she turned her back and flounced off so I said " If you want her to leave that's fine".
She then proceeded to tell me not to "be smart that I wouldn't do that to a child"
I walked away then without saying anything but feelin mad as hell.
Ok this week dd goes to practise, has forgotton white t-shirt, teacher says to her " you are lucky you are still in this panto the cheek of your mother coming in here last week and being smart with me".
So there we stand and now what do I do, would really like to take her out as don't think any child should be subjected to this but dd doesn't want to let others down and neither do I.
I don't think I was being "smart" and even if I was she should not have said this to my daughter.
The panto has nothing to do with the school apart from being held in school hall so can't complain to headteacher.
Arrgh