to think another mum shouldn't just wander round my upstairs

[pickupthismess]

Am I just being really uptight?

One of the mums locally has a very messy/child friendly (that is to say 'child dominated') house. That's fine but am really fed up with her treating our place the same. She lets her DS just have the run of our house.

Main gripe - last time she took her DS to the toilet attached to a bedroom upstairs. I knew I had dirty washing piled up there on the floor to be sorted and that the door was firmly shut as a result. So was really Even after she used it I could hear her in DS1's bedroom taking out toys for her DS to bring down. Said nothing but was really fed up. She's always angling to come over here but don't want her to TBH (DSs don't even really like her DS that much).

Am I being over sensitive?

How rude! Thought about sealing up your bedroom doors with police tape?

Years ago, when the neighbour's children used to come to our house to play and their mother would come to collect them, she'd poke open our kitchen letter box to look through and then knock! It was really disconcerting! To stop her doing it my mum stuck a pair of scary eyes to a piece of cardboard and stuck it to the back of the letter box.

lol heated - how did she react?

That's hilarious!
I wish I knew a letterboxlookerinner now, so I could spook them!

LOL Heated, excellent !!

No idea, she never said a word! Postman always used to grin though.

scary eyes is so funny

PMSL at the scary eyes!
YANBU she is a cheeky cow.

You could just say, please don't go upstairs / use the ensuite / bring toys downstairs.

It's not that hard

used to lock a play room and found another mum unlocking to let her sprogs inside - sometimes you just can't stop some people

YANBU. I told play group visitors our cat was vicious and put pictures of something that looked like a sabretooth tiger on our bedroom door. No one ever went in there.

I have said before that all our upstairs carpets have just been vaxed so are still wet, this tends to stop parents + children venturing up there! Haven't been able to use this excuse too many times though, people get wise to it!!