to hide the dc's nice toys upstairs in their room and.....

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leave all the plastic tat in the playroom where it can be merrily demolished by them and their friends?

and by friends i actually mean one friend in paticular who seems to be some sort of human demolitian ball and has already been banned from ever setting foot upstairs due to the risk of her flooding the house/trashing my room/stripping all the beds/emptying all the drawers

they have some lovely toys they got for xmas like a big wooden dolls house that i can't stand the thought of seeing ripped to pieces but i am beginning to wonder if it's a bit over the top to hide away all the nice stuff?

"AND said boy told my dd that he didn't want to be friends with her anymore which has really upset her as shes a bit wussy sensitive"

problem solved then - and when he wants to play with her again, then tell him that your dd doesnt want to play with him!!

thisisyesterday - I too am very firm with visiting kids regarding house rules. Boy I already mentioned poured water into my dd's toy kitchen and he got a very firm telling from me that we don't play with water in the house. His mum seemed to just think it was amusing.

But you can't really say "oi don't touch that toy you might break it" LOL

lol, babymt.... i know what you mean about not being able to ban them from touching everything!

as it is the child in question looks at me like i've got 2 heads as i spend the whole time she's here saying 'x we don't do that here', 'x please don't do that', 'x please don't take every toy out of the playroom put them on the trampoline and try and jump on them', 'x the cat does not want to wear doll's clothes and you are going to get your eyes scratcehed out in a minute'..... it's exhausting and she just doesn't grasp why she can't do these things as he mother just lets her run wild.

i'm glad other people do this too

i put stuff in my room that i don't want to be broken as no children are allowed in there (apart from my own) and all children who come to my house know this and thankfully listen to me in that respect

my 2 nephews came the day after boxing day and i put ALL the dc's new toys away because my nephews always end up breaking something/things when they come here i put it all away and a lovely day was had by all

i know accidents happen and all that but when a child is damaging things on purpose for whatever reason then put them away!!!

could you limit the amount of time the friend comes over? maybe once a week/fortnight on a certain day and thats it?

Urm, I've put the nice toys away to stop my own ds from destroying them - certain toys he can only have when supervised. I'd totally understand if others didn't want him playing with certain toys at their houses.

YANBU - saves arguments too