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Original poster

to want to avoid my inlaws' dogs with my 6 week old?

18 replies

papoose · 30/12/2008 13:34

My inlaws have three dogs, one Jack Russell who does not stop barking very very loudly - the sound goes straight through you - and two spaniels who are untrained and jump up trying to lick you all the time. They are allowed to jump up on the sofa and are basically undisciplined. I have a 6 week old daughter and so far they have made sure the dogs are at the cousins house down the road, but they announced the other day that in a couple of weeks' time they won't need to banish them when I visit with my daughter.

I am not happy about my daughter being around them, as I think they will scare her and it will mean that, for example I can't leave her sleeping in her car seat on the floor as the dogs will jump on her. AIBU??

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rubyslippers · 30/12/2008 13:35

YANBU

I am not a fan of yappy, licky dogs

Joolyjoolyjoo · 30/12/2008 13:36

If the dogs are unruly and lively then YANBU- can they not just put them in another room?

rubyslippers · 30/12/2008 13:36

as a compromise though, could they not be put in a separate room when you visit or outside?

rubyslippers · 30/12/2008 13:36

x post with Jooly

Annya · 30/12/2008 13:38

I think you would have to ask them to shut the dogs out of the room if she's sleeping. But, when awake, she might not be scared, she might be interested and amused by them?

meemar · 30/12/2008 13:39

I can see why you are concerned, but there needs to be compromise as, after all it's their house.

They need to provide a safe place for your dd to sleep if she needs to that the dogs cannot get access to.

If you are all in the living room they need to know that having the dogs jump up at people is unnacceptable and if they wont shut them in another room, or train them properly, then you won't be visiting anymore.

aGalChangedHerName · 30/12/2008 13:40

Have you asked them if they will put the dogs in another room while you visit?

I don't visit my mil or my mum as they both have jumpy, uncontrollable dogs who occasionally bite.

The dd's are scared of them so no more visiting for us

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papoose · 30/12/2008 13:45

The trouble is, it is a small flat and the only other room really is the kitchen, unless they put them upstairs in one of the bedrooms which they will not want to do.

I do agree that the baby may be amused by them, but not yet, possibly when she is 6 months old perhaps, but at the monment I just don't think it is safe having them in the same room as he.

It is a tricky one though as the in laws are very kind and well meaning people and they adore their granddaughter, but they also think the world of their dogs and very rarely leave them alone. in fact over Xmas when I visited, they were put in the cousins house alone as the cousin was out, and halfway throught the afternoon my PIL went to sit with them for an hour!! So as well as the difficulty in telling them how I feel about the dogs, I will also feel i am inconveniencing them as they dont like leaving the dogs on their own.

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ThePregnantHedgeWitch · 30/12/2008 13:52

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aGalChangedHerName · 30/12/2008 13:55

If your in-laws will make sure the dogs don't jump onto the car seat/your lo then yes i agree children should get used to dogs.

But my mum and mil didn't do that. Result = 2 dd's who don't like dogs.

elastamum · 30/12/2008 13:58

YANBU. I have 2 lovely dogs and always shut them in downstairs if anyone comes to visit who doesnt like dogs. Lots of kids are frightened even though our dogs are lovely well behaved girls. A yapping dog may teach your baby to be frightened of dogs. Explain to your in laws that you dont feel comfortable with the dogs around your baby and then stand your ground.

Bonnycat · 30/12/2008 14:05

YANBU my 2 DC are terrified of my brother's dog ,it goes totally mental at everyone.They are not scared of all dogs just this one,its a loon.My brother puts it upstairs when we visit.

lilstarry1 · 30/12/2008 14:43

When my 1st was born my mother had a bit of a jealous mid life crisis and brought a small yappy puppy! I now have two daughters and both have been around the dog since the get go, the dog is chaos personified and I hate it BUT both my girls love her, and they are both really confident around her and other dogs. I never leave them alone, and have been known to grab the youngest up out of the way, but in all honesty I don't see the problem. It gets harder as a baby gets older because they get mobile too! Whilst she's lying on the floor it's easy 'cos all you have to control is the dogs! I'd give the dogs a chance, if they do get in the way and it is too much you can at least ask the inlaws with proof that it just isn't working.

Are you okay with dogs? It sounds like you may have a general dislike of them (me too!)

fledtoscotland · 31/12/2008 23:07

sorry but YABU. if you dont like the dogs being around you shouldnt visit.

misscathcart · 31/12/2008 23:25

YANBU
I love dogs, was always brought up around them, but I would ot leave my dd for a moment at my dads, as he has a very boistrous big dog. He always claims that he is fine etc but it isnt a chance I'm willng to take. I visit them now and thn and they do put the dog in the bedroom for some of the time but I am not going to risk my childs safety to please my dad

misscathcart · 31/12/2008 23:26

sorry for typos my keyboard is stickng!

bethoo · 31/12/2008 23:27

dont leave her unsupervised then

WinkyWinkola · 01/01/2009 13:27

YANBU. A dog's tongue is his face cloth but also his toilet paper.

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