To expect guests to have a bath (main bathroom) or a shower in my ensuite?

[mamamakescake]

Guests have arrived today, they have stayed lots of times before. I have explained to them they can have a bath (which has a shower attachment) in the main bathroom or a shower in the ensuite on my room. There is a seperate shower in the main bathroom but it does not work as the shower head is broken - they have turned up today with a showerhead which does not match my bathroom presumably with the intention of fixing it. BTW - they have expressed their unhappiness about the bath situation before. I actually don't want the shower fixed as it is the only place for the cat's litter tray to live.

Am IBU?

the bathroom is a sensible place for a litter tray IMHO after all the cat is doing the feline equivalent of using the loo .

Why is it so awkward to move the litter tray out when cat is not needing it? Surely it's only a 10 second job??

Litter trays are weird things, anyway, gardens are where the cat should poo.

well I'm going against the grain here ( don't I always ) and think you're being a little unfair.

I'd actually be very grateful if regular guests to my house turned up with the intention of fixing something that obviously hasn't worked for a while (regardless of whether I wanted it fixing or not).

I don't think it's odd at all, I think they're trying to help you! Perhaps thank them for bringing the new shower head, but explain that actually the cat litter try has to live there for x,y,z reasons and you don't actually need/want it fixed yet.

Cat poo in the bathroom is better than in the kitchen, IMO.

I don't think YABU - it's an interesting tension that's created when parents / IL's are guests in their children's house isn't it?

On the one hand YOU expect them to behave pretty much as any other guest would (ie respect the facilities that are provided, be polite and get on with it). On the other hand they feel compelled to 'fix' things that they perceive to be a 'problem' for their children, whether or not they actually want it fixed.

My mother hates cooking in my kitchen (not that I ask her to or even want her to - it's usually more trouble than it is worth - but she occasionally insists). She'll make comments about things like the knives and saucepans not being like ones she's used to (and blame them if the meal turns out badly ), then she'll go out and buy replacements On on hand it can be perceived as being kind and fixing a 'problem' - but it can also come across as a wee bit patronising and inappropriate...

I think the crux of the matter is whether you have ever expressed any wish to have the problem fixed. Otherwise it's a bit like saying 'I've bought you this deodorant as your armpits are a bit smelly' (okay well maybe not that extreme but ykwim )

mloo

How does one predict when the cat will need to pee or shit? Also I am pregnant so it is not something I can do.

Agree bathroom is much better than kitch - infact no way i would have a tray downstairs.

Vam

Lol - the airpit thing is exactly how I feel.