To put down plastic bags on my carseats when i take my incontinent colleague home

[Ashantai]

Ok this is a sensitive one, but i sometimes give a lift home to a collegue who lives near me who is disabled and has incontinent issues.

A few times when i she has left the car, there is a whiff of wee and i have had to give the seat a good wash and spray febreze to get rid of the smell.

The other day some of my mates at work told me that she was a little whiffy and one of our managers took her to one side to tell her and she got a bit upset. I went out to the car to get a big plastic bag to cover the seat before we left and told her that the kids had been sick on it, and i didnt want her to smell of it.

I kinda did the same thing the following night and i do feel bad, but i'm sick of having to clean up after her and dont quite know how to broach the subject without causing offence.

So what do i do?

Thanks very much for all your comments. I must admit that i felt very bad talking about it on here, but i just wanted some ideas of how to tackle this.

I dont really know her too well to talk about this intimate problem, but i might have a word to my manager seeing as she has already had a word to her about it.

Maybe that will prompt her to get more effective protection and i wont have to have this awkward conversation

I think that you have to be honest with her, it may be upsetting but it is for the best. You are kind enough to give her a lift home, but it is beyond the call of duty to have to clean up wee, or go out and buy other car seat covers that you would have to wash.

There is a saying and it is 'faithful are the wounds of a friend'.

Honesty is always the best policy, for you and for her.