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to not wrap any of DDs birthday presents?

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chloemegjess · 27/12/2008 09:32

DD has her first birthday on 29th. She was able to open her Xmas presents and did enjoy doing it to start with, but there were so many. I have spent the whole of Christmas day and boxing day opening presents for her, and she got bored after a while.

We have got her more presents for her birthday but I am feeling like I can't be bothered to wrap them all! I know it sounds mean but I am so fed up of wrapping up! And we can give her stuff from us here on our own, and then she can have stuff to open when she sees the rest of the family later on in the day?

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TLESinChristmasStockings · 27/12/2008 09:38

I wouldn't bother personally....but for next year....don't buy so many for xmas or spread the xmas pressies out over the two days...so some for xmas day and some for birthday..otherwise as she gets older its going to cost you a fortune and you will be spending all your time wrapping lol

Have a good day

pippylongstockings · 27/12/2008 09:43

I know what you mean my DS2 b.day is on 2nd Jan. But I did wrap his pressies I think it does add to the birthdayness of the event rather than gifts just given unwrapped.

Obviously she doesn't know the difference.

What we have done is ask people to give money for b.day or books - as then you can but a nice gift in a few months time or book last better than lots of the tat that they then get's overloaded with.

I found what a 18 month old who walks around wants to play with, is different to what a 12month old who crawls finds interesting. Therefor having cash means you can spread the gifts throughout the year.

BouncingTinsel · 27/12/2008 09:46

Chloe - my DS's birthday is today, we have only got him a few token presents from us and immediate family today, we're going to have a party for him in the summer and have asked people to get him birthday presents then instead.
Perhaps something you can think about for next year? Or put some aside what you have already got now and open them up at another time?

Don't agree with you, TLES - why should you get less presents if you are born near Christmas?
After all, that is the only time of year they will get birthday and Christmas presents!

mrsgboring · 27/12/2008 09:47

Only give her one of the birthday presents (wrapped up I would) - she's probably overwhelmed with gifts and can't cope with anything else new at this stage anyway. Put the rest of the stuff away and get it out during the year as she gets to be at a bit of loose end and needs something new.

She's too young to understand all this orgy of gift-giving for a couple of years yet IMO.

Bonnycat · 27/12/2008 09:53

I wouldnt bother this year as she is so little.Its such a faff isnt it?My DDs birthday is New Years Eve but she is 3 this year so cant get away with no fuss!
We have also suggested to immediate family who wouldnt be offended that they give her money which we will put into her account and buy her something nice in the summer.

nicolamumof3 · 27/12/2008 11:40

am in the same situation as ds2's bday is tomorrow. he is three tho this year and the first time he has been fully aware of bday's and is very excited. i always make if a very 'bday' type time, lots of balloons, bday decs etc. presents wrapped in bday paper (its amazing so many he's had previously in xmas paper??) anyway for first bday he was completely oblivious. i would do as bouncing tinsel has suggested save buying presents if poss til the summer she will then want/need/use completely different toys.
have a lovely day!

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chloemegjess · 27/12/2008 14:21

Agree with bouncing that you shouldn't give a child less because they have their birthday at Christmas, it isn't fair.

Don't want to save her presents either as we have bought her stuff she will like now, not in 6 months time when she is that much older.

Will just give her the stuff unwrapped and let family give her wrapped stuff. The stuff we bought her is boxed anyway so it is still new and not like just randomly giving her a toy iyswim.

I am ill now too

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ichangedforthisbutiamaregular · 27/12/2008 16:27

oh no sorry that is mean - my DD2 is 1 tomorrow
We havent got her loads but it will all be wrapped in BIRTHDAY paper and she will be having a party tomorrow on her birthday not in a few months - I intend to start as I mean to carry on - this is the day she was born a special day, I make a fuss of DD1 on her birthday in September and intend to make no less of a fuss of DD2 just because she was born 3 days after xmas

ichangedforthisbutiamaregular · 27/12/2008 16:27

oh oops ignore the name I changed for another thread and forgot to change back

NAB3hundredChristmaslights · 27/12/2008 16:29

I would wrap one or two and then just introduce the other bits as and when. She won't understand it is her birthday anyway and is probably too overwhelmed by Xmas and then another day of presents to understand.

wrapstar · 27/12/2008 16:30

No don't give her fewer presents because her birthday is at Christmas, give her fewer because she is a little baby, she doesn't even begin to understand it is her birthday, she clearly doesn't need anything else, and more stuff will just overwhelm and confuse her. This avalanche of gifts nowadays is madness IMO. Doesn't make kids happy and is so excessive - almost takes away from the celebration rather than adding to it.

vjg13 · 27/12/2008 18:17

Just get a nice gift bag or tie a helium balloon to one. It'll still be special.

Tigger13 · 27/12/2008 21:25

I am a christmas day birthday, and even though I am much to old (34!)I still have ALL my birthday presents wrapped in birthday paper and all of my friends and family stick to it.

Since I was fairly young, I have 'celebrated'
it on either the sat or sun b4 christmas, i.e. have presents and cards then and a cake, but still everyone says happy birthday day on christmas day and I love it, lots of people have suggested celebrating it in the summer but thats not when I was born and to me it would feel very false.

tiredsville · 27/12/2008 21:27

Gosh, I thought you said DD 29th birthday! I'm loosing the plot.

ShyBaby · 27/12/2008 21:37

I'd still wrap them. Dd loved (trying) to unwrap her first birthday presents.

What I normally do is not buy her less for her birthday (January) but buy her birthday presents when I buy the Christmas ones and split them. I hate going out in the sales.

It wouldn't seem fair to not make an effort just because im still knackered from Christmas

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