AIBU

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to think it is nothing to do with my sister in the big smoke, who comes home only on religious holidays to our little world, how I puddle along with my mother in the shires EVERY SINGLE DAY OF LIFE?(with two toddlers in tow).

I don't know what you are asking about. I suspect that your sister is the favourite and when she comes home for christmas its all about her and how she lives in London. Well I can tell you its the same with me except that neither of us live near our mother, it starts when the favourite comes out of the womb, and they are ususally the ones who go off and leave the donkey work to the other sibling.

I would look at it this way, you get to see your mum alot, your kids have a granny around and that is priceless. Your mum relies on you alot probably, honoring your mother is such a great role for your own children.

Its hard to not be hurt, I know, but don't sweat it, cherish what you have.

the sun shines out of my sisters arse even though she is 5000 miles away in the US and despite me caring for our mum, plus my own kids, my sisters pronouncements on everything are always right. ho de hum
Have to girt your teeth and wait for her to leave.

needmorecoffee how did it go today with ILs?
hope they were kind to you and your DD

Well both my brother and I live within 10 miles of my parents and I'm there all the time helping and supporting them...brother's always been the golden child and he doesn't bother much at all...that's life!
I got a lovely message in my Christmas card from Mum and Dad thanking me though for all my help which means they have noticed. Your mum will have noticed too I'm sure...

My best friends mum was buried this week on Tuesday and she(bf)spent the last 3 months nursing and caring for her mum even though there were two sisters(they hardly bothered ~ I bothered more than thay did in fact). She was mad as hell with them at the time, but now she realises that she spent a lot of quality time with her Mum and has made fantastic memories that they just don't have.

You are making memories that your sister will not have. Be happy with that knowledge.