To think DP might not get drunk tonight with old school friends?

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(We have a DS4yrs and DD2yrs who are both really excited about tomorrow! DS has just watched Santa on the NORAD website and is now pretending to sleep, DD is asleep.)

Anyway, when me and DP were at school we used to go out on Christmas Eve and sleep til Christmas dinner was served, good fun at the time.

As he was leaving I asked what time he'd be home, he doesn't know.

I asked if he would be getting drunk tonight and he said he would come back when he has finished talking to the people he wants to see which might be after I am asleep!

I said he better not get drunk coz I will go crazy tomorrow if he's hungover in the morning and he's just stormed out and said I'm not his mum FFS! Tell me if IABU or he is please...

YANBU, he shouldnt get drunk tonight, he shoudl enjoy the day with his children tomorrow, they will be sad if Daddy doesnt want to interact tomorrow but his friends probably wouldnt be sad if he didnt get drunk!

YANBU YANBU YANBU

Depends how much you like being the mum at home. Not sure really but make him do all the washing up tomorrow as punishment. Just felt as though I had to post tonight because of my fab name. .

I would be pissed off. DH has gone out with ds1's gf'd dad and knows he is allowed to have a few but not get paraletic or i'll not be happy!!

Having Christmas with dc is different to having Christmas when young and single surely??

Oh for christs sake

why do these blokes have kids if they want to carry on with a single man's lifestyle ???

what is the point

Thanks for the replies, I feel like I am his mum sometimes coz he acts like such a bloody child! I did threaten to phone his mum and tell her

I think when everyone else starts having kids this whole Christmas eve thing will die off, we are not young and single anymore and Christmas is a time for families surely?

Anyfucker straight to the point I love it!

I only went out once on Christmas Eve since having DD 14 years ago when she was 2 and vowed never to do it again. As well as the washing up you should also arrange a night out with your mates soon. He'll get the message next year.

Excellent post AnyFucker!!

This will be the 1st time DH has been out on Christmas Eve since before ds1 was born 17 years ago. HE has only gone because i wanted peace and told him he could or else he's be sitting annoying chatting to me whilst i am MNetting lol

Hi Christmaseve (great name!), I have girly night planned in January already, just tonight I am really annoyed mostly because he did not say "I'm just out for a few be back in a couple of hours"!

Well if he gets hungover, just send the kids into wake him up.... at 5am

YANBU, BTW!

Dh goes out on Xmas Eve. Always has. But these days its only an hour. We all went out for a meal first and then DH went to the pub. Back now.

YANBU. Twas one of the only things I threw my toys out of the pram over when DCs were small.

What really annoys me is that I don't have a problem any other time he goes out, he's been on football holidays/stag do's abroad that last 3 or 4 days but I'm like you OrmIrian, if he had said that it would only be an hour I would be fine right now!

He is being very unreasonable but don't let it ruin your Christmas. Don't let him do it next year. xxx

He is being an arse isn't he?

If DH did this tonight and was hungover/unable to get up at usual time he would miss the dc opening their presents.

I wouldn't delay the opening and would not wake him in time. Then he would feel miserable But i am a crazy whatist about this stuff!!

I have a rule that DH can do all his christmas drinking before but christmas eve he needs to stay fairly sober.

Well at least until he has been up the loft to get the childrens presents down.

Tell him he is cooking christmas dinner tomorrow so needs to get back to prepare.

DP always goes out on Xmas eve & always has done, but then he's always done the driving on Xmas day & never drinks then. Not yet spent Xmas together (only officially got together this time last year!) but maybe next year, but will let him carry on with his Xmas eve tradition if he wants.

Last yr DD's dad & I were out drinking in the pub together & the year before that I was down the street at my friend's drinking. I'm not really that bothered by it so long as nobody is too rough/grumpy on xmas day.

He is supposed to be cooking christmas dinner but that's not til later, I think I'll send the kids in to wake him early, that's more evil!

Agree with anyfucker what's the point of having DC and a wife or partner if you want to be a single bloke going out and getting pisses?

DP is out right now gone to mass he will be back in half an hour and I am SOOOOO hoping DD1 is asleep by then.

Turn the tables how would he like it if the shoe was on the other foot?