To wish people would stop...

[Pinkjennybellrock]

Calling and texting me if they are looking after dd to tell me 'she wants you'.

Dh and I went away (which we NEVER do) on Saturday night, and my mum had dd overnight. All the way home she was texting me, saying things like, 'where are you now', and 'she is asking for you'. I am in work today, and dd is with dh, and they have gone to meet MIL to exchange Xmas presents. He has just text me to say, 'we had to leave early so she could sleep in the car as she wants you'.

It makes me feel physically sick, as there is nothing I can do about it right at this precise second. The child goes to nursery two days a week, I wonder if they'll start ringing me to say 'she wants you'.

I probably am being a tad oversensitive, but really, what is the point? All it achieves is to make me worry. Now I'm texting dh and saying, 'is she OK, is she unwell, why does she want me'.

This kind of thing. Grrrrr.

Not on at all especially if you are at work unless there is something wrong. In which case surely they would have told you?

Dh said she was fine, just tired and that's why she is asking for me. It winds me up so much. My mum (who is wonderful and has dd two days a week for me while I work), also has a tendency to ring me and say things like, 'she won't sleep', 'she won't eat her lunch'.

you are not being unreasonable.
But you do need to tell them that it is not helful.

Don't complain about what they are doing - just say what you have said here which is "if it is urgent and i need to come home then call me. Otherwise deal with it . Telling me when I am powerless to do anything about it is just upsetting".

Turn your phone off

Oh wotuhoho - I wish I was that kind of person!

Ds is a daddy's boy so spends all day asking for Daddy. Drives me mad. Luckily, it means he calls his daddy at night and won't settle for me

Funnily enough though, when she is with me, she will periodically ask for dh, my mum, my dad, the kids at nursery. Maybe she's just making conversation!

Could be. It could be that she gets a reaction from it so carries on doing it. For example, she says to her grandma that she wants you, and grandmas says 'ooohhh' and gives her a cuddle.

Maybe. I am worrying now. Will beat dh around the head when I get home.

Good idea