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AIBU?

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aibu to be pleased that my husband has broken his arm???

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benbon · 24/12/2008 09:42

ok i no i sound like a right cow but my husband normally works about 70 hours a week even though i have told him many many times he doesnt need to (he openly admits that he enjoys going to work and gets on great with all his work mates) which is great i know but it makes me wonder if he goes in to see them?? then i work part time so we rarely see each other.

well anyway yesterday i had a phone call from him he was at the hospital and had broken his arm (at work) so now is having to have at least 2 whole weeks off, im so pleased i have all kinds of great ideas of things we could do... so am i mean???

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Dropdeadfred · 24/12/2008 09:43

yes!

aGalChangedHerName · 24/12/2008 09:43

Lol that's funny!!

Bet he drives you crazy tho because he is bored!!

Nemostwonderfultimeoftheyear · 24/12/2008 09:43

yes but can understand why

jumpingbeans · 24/12/2008 09:44

Post back on here after two weeks of having him around you, you will ready to hurl him under a bus,plaster or no plaster

XmasPud · 24/12/2008 09:44

while I can understand your delight in having more time with him, YABU to be pleased about the broken arm bit. Did you really need to ask that?!??!!

2pt4WiseMen · 24/12/2008 09:45

Can understand why you'd think it.
Perhaps it will be a good chance to spend some time together and then have a good talk about how you can both work it so you can arrange more time together in the future?

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benbon · 24/12/2008 09:48

bless my 5 year old did have to help him put his socks on this morning, im not going near his feet...

were off out to see santa today ! im so excited..

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benbon · 24/12/2008 09:50

well i would of been happy if he just took the 2 weeks off but that would of been a no no,

i just keep telling my self the break is only tiny!!! x

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Reallytired · 24/12/2008 09:54

I'm sorry that your husband broke his arm. Ouch! I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

I think you are glad to spend two weeks with him. This is not the same as being glad that he broke his arm.

I agree with 2pt4WiseMen that you should talk on how you two can spend more time together.

TigerFeet · 24/12/2008 09:58

If I were you I'd concentrate on making the most of the next couple of weeks - then, the night before he goes back to work, casually mention how much you've enjoyed having him around and perhaps you should make more effort to do it more often? If he enjoys the break (no pun intended, sorry ) then he may be more amenable to making changes.

70 hours a week is a lot - does he work every day? Perhaps you should insist that he spend at least one day a week at home with his family.

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benbon · 24/12/2008 10:10

no he doesnt work every day he does a lot of different shifts i just find it crazy when he works nights finishes at 8 in the morning has and hour and a half travelling time to get home then goes to bed and he sees that as his day off,
ive pointed out many times that if you have worked 8 hours of the day it does not count as a day off..

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TigerFeet · 24/12/2008 10:15

Sympathies Benbon - my dh worked nights for a while and it was really hard on all of us. He wouldn't go to bed after work on his "day off" so some weeks he would only have six nights' sleep . I asked, no, told him to find another job in the end - I was on my own with a baby and it was awful.

Horrible and painful as it is for your dh, I really hope this is the trigger for a better work/life balance for all of you.

LouMacca · 24/12/2008 10:17

When I saw the thread title I thought blimey thats a bit harsh! But reading your post I can sympathise with you and see why is has come as a blessing in a way, although poor hubby - must be pretty painful for him.

Agree with Tigerfeet - make the most of it and changes could be afoot. Best Wishes for 2009!

XmasPud · 24/12/2008 10:21

My DH does exactly that BenBon! The famous "day off" thing. My DH will work all night and then have a "day off with the family" which involves him sleeping all morning, early afternoon. Waking and moody in the afternoon, catches up on email, no time for kids or me. Helps with dinner, spends an hour or so with me and then back on the computer working.

The problem for him is that his office is in the home so temptation to sneak back to work is HUGE

gracie101 · 24/12/2008 10:22

HANG ON I've seen this film.

Are you Kathy Bates?!

MumHadEnoughTinsel · 24/12/2008 10:24

Lol I don't think yabu.

I hope you enjoy your time with him, I agree with tigerfeet, make the most of it and he might realise what he's missing. x

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benbon · 24/12/2008 10:28

whos cathy bates???

well we are off out today which is great as im working tonight so wouldnt of seen him today... luckaly he doesnt seem to be in much pain im sure he would be moaning if he was...

i just cant beleive we are gonna have the whole of crimbo and new year together...

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Flihgtattendant · 24/12/2008 10:34

Yanbu, go on, trip him up and break the other one

Seriously - hope you enjoy the time together, but I am guessing you might want to eat your words at some point!!

BouncingTinsel · 24/12/2008 10:47

Kathy Bates

I'm for you that it has taken a broken arm to have some decent time with your DH. You really need to tackle him on this, if he doesn't need to work 70 hours a week he should devote more time to the family!

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