to be very slightly miffed even though its Xmas Eve.

[pamelat]

DH is usually brilliant, very hands on with DD.

Yesterday was xmas do. 1pm onwards.

He was home by 10pm, I was impressed.

However he was very drunk. I was sober and in bed, which doesnt help!.

He smelt of drink, kept repeating himself blah blah blah, all the usual christmas stuff (he hardly ever goes out).

11pm he is downstairs and I cant sleep.

1130, he goes outside. I end up going downstairs and he is weeing in the garden!!

He has done this before drunkenly but it really annoyed me. He was just in his pants, it was cold and just stupid. He was coming up to bed anyway and had already put the lights out/TV off (we don't have a downstairs toilet).

Anyway, he came to bed and started snoring. 1230 I ask him (nicely to go spare room), he does.

DD (11 months) normally sleeps through then wakes at 1245, 245, 330 and 5am. I got up every time.

I have to be careful as he usually does any night wakings, but once every 3 weeks is about "normal"/

630am I get up with her. He seems ok and had said he could have a lie in after his work do, I just feel slighly miffed (nothing serious) as feel that I am now very tired and that its everyone elses "fault"! I went to bed at 930pm!

Or am I a selfish moo and this was a one off, lucky blah blah blah ..... ????

What is it with men and pissing in the garden/wardrobe/on the floor when they have had a drink !

Yanbu atall .. Hope you have a nice and not too knackered day.

Kick your DH out of bed at 9 and make him pull his weight.

Happy Christmas !

I think men are just generally really annoying when they get drunk!

Yes and No.

If your DH is normally very good and helps with DD and all that then yes, he's surely allowed one day of silliness. Although when you're knackered its hard to feel like that.

But then again, he chose to go out drinking so I don't think you're being unreasonable to be a bit grumpy about it. I would let him sleep for a bit then get him up even if he is hungover and make him have DD while you have a nap - even if he lounges on the sofa while DD watches telly and plays - its Xmas eve after all!

He's a silly sod, but you said yourself he is normally very good and he doesn't go out very often. Once a year for numptyish drunken behaviour isn't the end of the world, is it ?

Would you rather your 'very drunk' DH has have got up with the baby ? I sure as heck wouldn't want somebody handling a baby who was inebriated !

I can understand that you're miffed that he's having a lie in though. I'd give him 'til 9am then get him up. It might be less than he wanted but it's 2.5 hours more than you had !

Yep I dont mind the day of silliness but I think proper drunkeness is so very unattractive, and yes I have been guilty of it in the past too.

Its just the lack of sleep. If I had been asleep by 10 I could have coped better with DD, whereas now I feel I was up with 2 children in the night!

Oh well. We are at his parents later, I may ask to nap!!

Oh god no, I wouldnt let him look after DD solo in the state he was in!

I might not let him drive all day!

I went out last Friday and had 2 glasses of wine and G&T, was back within 2 hours "bored" (my fault I know), he said I was drunk.

Mmmmmmm I might have some fun today!

I might be tempted to vacuum outisde the spare room! Otherwise, if he's normally hands on I'd let him off. Lots of men behave like that on a regular basis, once a year isn't too bad! Although I do sympathise, especially today when there's lots to do.

Mmmmmmm was not really too annoyed but just been to "see" him and he has said that he didn't get "chance" to buy his dads christmas present (I bought every other member of his family) and that he "might need to pop in to town today" argghhhhhhh

I am sure that its only men that behave like this ... ?!!

I would have left the drinking to present shop rather than spend family time around the shops today.

Especially as he is leaving work in 3 weeks anyway (redundancy) so its hardly like he needs to socialise with them!

Am trying to remain calm. Might drop him and DD off there?!

maybe he needed to socialise because of the redundancy. I would give him a break. If he is off into town chuck dd in pram and tell him to take her too. That way you can have some peace to do what you need to.
Sounds like he usually pulls his weight etc so dont be too harsh on him tis only once a year.

If he doesn't do it often, I would imagine that the hangover he's going to wake up with is punishment enough.
YANBU but he is NBU either if it's only once a year.

pamela - tell him to get up and dressed right now and take DD into town while you have a nap - it should take him a while to get through the late shopping crowds!

Neither of you is being unreasonable here and frankly if your dp only acts like this once a year I think you are unusually blessed!

It sounds like bad luck to me!
He has one night out that it sounds like he deserves (redundnacy, helps out a lot with night wakings etc) and its just bad luck that your DD chose last night to have an unsettled night!
The weeing in the garden is just a stupid things that is quite funny really, he probaly thought he was being nice by not weeing upstairs and waking you up!!

Let it go this morning, let him have his lie in (if you think he would if the situation was the other way round..)
Then have a nap this afternoon while they are out visiting (you cancatch them up later)

I know how you feel though, my DS1 kept me up between 2am and 5.30am (he is sick) and DS2 (baby) woke up at 1am and 6am so not much sleep for me or DH last night!!! I am shattered!

I think him having to go to his parents suffering the STONKING hangover e is going to have is divine retribution.

let it go - it's Xmas tomorrow

If it only happens now and then, I'd just try to laugh about it.

Try thinking to yourself, 'Ahh well, he's a dickhead...but he's MY dickhead.'

sometimes I find that helps. Either that or shouting so loud his hair blows about in the accompanying breeze.

happy christmas xx