To want DC's presents here for them to open on xmas day?

[Dragonfly74]

This may seem a little petty but we have 2 DC's the oldest being nearly 3 so this is the first christmas that everything will seem magical to him.

Everyone has made sure that DC's presents are at our house for opening on christmas day but MIL refuses to bring hers over and has said that she will tell DS that santa left them at her house.

I've suggested that she bring the presents here and she can come round christmas morning to see them being opened but she won't.

Also i've told her over and over that I want DS to believe in santa, but over the last few weeks she's been bringing items of clothing round that she's bought as presents wanting DS to try them on, and then to top it off leaves them here for me to wrap them.

Like I said maybe its petty but its wound me up!!

I don't want people to pretend they are from santa, but they can do if they like. Surely its up to them.

I don't buy presents to see gratitude. I buy them because I want to.

If people want to say they are from Santa they can, but my presents are from me! Santa brings his own.

I don't buy presents for gratitude either, but I expect my children to show proper gratitude to other people who buy them presents!

crumbs, my inlaws would be very if we said all the pressies they bought were from Santa

oh yes, I am not sure about the whole "from santa" thing. I won't be doing that (DD only 11 months old anyway), but I do think its up to the parents and their wishes.

Parents can control their own presents-they can't control other people-and shouldn't even try!

I went to a party on Friday and purposefully didn't give out presents in front of the children (12 months was the oldest) because I thought it was bad form, and instead I am happy for the parents to choose what to do with them.

I might feel differently if they were "Proper" presents, the type you would buy a family member. These were stocking fillers.

Its probably not worth getting upset about.

It seems to me that children have a remarkable ability to turn a blind eye to inconsistencies in the santa story for as long as they do actually want to believe in it.(bit like religious grown ups! .

If he's even noticed the clothes appearing early to be tried on, he'll probably rationalise it as very good planning on SCs part and a good thing he's got granny to help.

My ex-MIL insisted that the gifts from them were left by FC at their house by mistake and she had brought them over for the children.
I have no problems at all with her bringing the gifts (I would think it strange if she had wanted them to be left at our house and opened when she wasn't there if we were seeing them during the xmas period), but I found it v v odd to insist that FC made a mistake and left them there.
As much as anything else I want the children to appreciate the giver and the thought, and to thank for it, and they can't do that if the present isn't from someone.
We just used to say "oh what a lovely present Nana and Grandad have brought, what do you say to them" or similar.

When I was little, we used to do a grand tour of all the rellies in the week after Christmas. Every day a new house, every day a new set of presents. It was fab.

Those who insist all presents from everyone must be there on Christmas Day: your kids are missing out!