Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

How have I managed to piss off everyone (again) at Christmas time?

6 replies

Mishee · 22/12/2008 11:26

Yet again I am doing Christmas for my family and his. Have got out of Boxing Day this year. Meant to only do lunch but my sister, who always arrives & says 'We're not staying long' has got cross cos I wasn't going to do evening meal, so am now. Then sis, who is doing Boxing Day lunch, said she'd do it early so I can take DD to her aunts later on. So arranged this & told sister who was then put out that I'd be leaving hers early... but it was her idea!!! Husband has to have all Christmas his way, because his big bro put up all the decorations when he was little so he has hijacked Christmas in our house for the past 15 years - I have no say. Then Mum just phoned to say my sister's goddaughter's mother has just brought round a present for my DD from her little boy. I said that I wan't going to buy one back as 1 I'm not starting a tradition of them 'buying' gifts & 2 they only see eachother about twice a year & Mum now says tshe thinks I'm 'a bit mean'. ARRGH! I'm going to have a lie down now so will read any messages of support when i wake up. Of course none of this is helped because of the message I left last week about DD needing hearing aids, out of the blue. Am seeing ENT chap later today. Perhaps once that app is over, I'll find the whole Christmas thing funny - let's hope so!

OP posts:
silentnightplease · 22/12/2008 11:32

Poor you - so much for being a season of goodwill. Good luck with the ENT appt.

(Puts wine in fridge for Mishee to have tonight)

June2009 · 22/12/2008 11:43

You can't please everyone. I find it hard juggling everybody's feelings as well honestly, I wish they would all toughen up and quit being so sensitive...
Can you get your dd to draw something for the little boy? It does get too much financially but since they made a gesture it would be nice.

lizziemun · 22/12/2008 12:18

Good luck at the ENT this afternoon.

I would suggest that this is the last year that you do everything.

If dh wants to do christmas then he cooks dinner for his family.

Mishee · 22/12/2008 12:42

Didn't even have much of a lie down as phone rang twice! Never mind, I think I get over sensitive at this time of year and take everyone's comments as criticisms. Thanks for thoughts.

OP posts:
TinyTimLivesinVictorianSqualor · 22/12/2008 12:55

You haven't pissed everyone off, you're just trying to please everyone.
Maybe you should piss them al off and tell them to get fucked. Then spend xmas drinking yourself into oblivion locked in the bathroom with the laptop and MN

Leo9 · 22/12/2008 13:22

husband - tell him you want some input next year.
Christmas day evening meal - cold meats/chutneys/bread, done!
Boxing day - visit to aunt all arranged, you have no control over sister being bizarre about it so forget it, do not give it head space.
Sister's god-daughter's mother: Good god. Do not worry for one second about a present back. Write a nice thank you note after christmas, leave it at that. If your mum can't see that you can't have expected anything and are not going to chase around now for someone so completely un-connected with you that is HER problem

I don't think there's anything to be done other than stop taking other people's stress on your shoulders.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page