ARGH!! My brother-in-law comes to visit my dp about every quarter for a boys type weekend. Lots of staying up til the early hours drinking, reminscing lads stuff I suppose.
I always try and make him feel welcome despite him being 'difficult' sometimes; e.g. refusing meals I buy for/prepare because he's not hungry or wants to save himself for beer..??! or the time when he refused to answer my 18 mth old asking him a question with the response "oh I dont do children - cant be bothered to intereact" plus farting extremely loudly and finding it funny...anyway...
everytime he comes he always leaves some sort of 'present' such as his empty packet of cigarettes secreted about the house so we find them weeks later (behind a book on the shelf/underneath a nice piece of china etc)
This time he flicked his butt ends into the garden and put a big can of windscreen wash into my lavendar bush.
AT first I didnt realise why it was there -and got really upset as litter seems to very easily find its way into the front garden and makes us looks trashy and I'm still trying to make at least a little bit nice to live in given that where I live isnt exactly Blenheim Palace. I wondered why some passerby would do such a thing - I even had an argument with dp about it as straight after finding this I was looking on the net for a new place to live!!! The penny dropped with us both when we realised who it was as he had been to a car store earlier in the day.
He also does it to our next door neighbour (a good friend) who he sees on the weekends he visits. We've spoken to him about it, tried to 'laughingly' get him to stop and ignored it.
ARGHHHHH!!! AIBU