To be annoyed at my sister?

[MotherChristmas2OliverJames]

I know it is quite trivial but she really annoyed me today, she took me shopping and we had a lovely day then we got a couple of pizzas to cook and eat at my house. I went into the kitchen and came back in and she had just turned my television on and was watching it.

AIBU to think that is rude?

I never turn the tele on when i have visitors because i prefer to talk to them.

My sister was killed in an accident a few years back. What I would give to have her turn my tv on. Get a life. Appreciate what you have got. Its no big deal.

sorry, don't usually do outbursts.

She is my younger sister, TBH in the past when we used to live in each other pockets i really couldn't have cared about her turning the tele on but i thought it would have been nice to just catch up on whats been going on.

Her and her DP just sat there glued to it, until he fell asleep then they went

i feel sad that our relationship has come to this, we used to be so close but when she moved in with DP they live in a very small town and have lots of friends visit them, and since me and XP split up i dont have a car and there are no buses.

She doesnt have time for me any more

CtC sorry, i am sorry about that

I',m not sure that yanbu, but i feel for you. The TV is always on in our house (at least when DH is in) and I BLAAARDY hate it.

Sorry I had a toddler tantrum. Why not have a chat to her if you see her over Christmas, arrange more nights/days in/out. Things do change with new partners on the scene, but bonds shouldnt be broken. She obviously still wants to be around you if you spent shopping time together? Best of luck with it all. Just talk.

perfectly understandable ctc i think that alot of the time we dont really appreiciate what we have got do we

i am definately going to try and see here more, it is just quite hard because i dont drive, there are no buses to where she lives at all and a taxi is over £20. (i am a LP so can't afford that)

she isn't even spending xmas day with our parents (not even popping over to see them) i hope i get to see her over xmas

YABU. She is family and in my family we each treat each others houses as our own. So I would be happy for my sister to turn the telivision on if she wants to.

Oh ffs - yes YABU and i'm a bit stunned you had to ask

She Turned The Telly On, she didn't burn your house down. No biggie. Really.

I think maybe you're overreacting a little - she is your sister! However agree with others that it depends on the relationship you have.

Just wanted to say that it sounds like you've worked out why it's upset you. It's not what she did, it's what it's saying about your relationship.

I'm a younger sister, and I don't think I realised how much I irritated my oldeer sister sometimes!

When I thought about it again last night, I realised that I would probably choose to sit in the kitchen and chat to my sister, so understand why you feel like you do,

She didn't do anything wrong, but it seems like you would have preferred to sit and chat - which is fair enough

I can understand this irritation. It's not that YABU it just seems like bad manners doesn't it?

My family never cease to amaze me with their lack of family spirit and it seems to get worse every year.

I am planning a lovely family Xmas and they will come over and sit in a separate room to us after Xmas lunch and just not really join in with me, DH, DCs and MIL. I have visions of playing charades and having loads of fun but they (like your sis) just have other ideas.

Really infuriating and difficult to tackle I find without a bit of a scene.

This is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever read on MN.

For heavens sake - it's a bloody television. You are completely over reacting.

Don't waste any more time or energy thinking about it. It's just a non-problem.

I probably would have been a little annoyed as well, were you brought up more strictly maybe?
Some people have a different concept of what is acceptable at other people's houses. Doesn't mean they are bad people. My little brother would ask before he touched anything, in contrast my bil helps himself to food from my cupboards. I find both behaviours to have advantages and disadvantages. You just have to go with the flow with family I'm afraid.
As cherrytinsel said you know, she's alive and I too would give everything I have to have my big brother come and switch my tv on.

Well I still think she's a savage.

I wouldn't turn the TV or radio on in my own house if there were someone else there, unless we were planning to watch or listen to something specific. It's philistine noise pollution.

Actually, I wouldn't turn the TV on even if there isn't someone else there unless I'm planning on watching something. I don't understand these people who need to have background noise. It's plain wierd.

My BIL came round recently, went straight into the lounge and turned on the footbal (which I HATE), loudly. I asked him to pass the remote, and he kept hold of it defensively and asked me what I wanted it for!!!!!!!!
I was so pissed off, I said "because it's my house, my TV and, whilst I would prefer it switched off altogether, I do at least want the volume down." He had the grace to look slightly sheepish. (but not much.)

God I wouldn't think twice about putting my sis' tele on without asking her.....but I guess on the other hand my sis wouldn't think twice about telling me not to be so rude and turning it off....