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AIBU?

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to think friend is being a little harsh

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peacelily · 20/12/2008 16:11

Before i start I can totally understand why she's hacked off with me but I just think she's taken it a bit too far.

Had visit planned in March for Oct (we live in manc she lives in south west) to go to see her. I cancelled it a month before for 3 reasons, a v close mate had her 30th that weekend, it was close to a hand in date for some Msc work and I had a miscarriage in sept and couldn't face the palaver of it TBH on top of everything else.

She then text with an alternative date in Nov to which my immediate thought was that it was too close to xmas and another MSc deadline. I'll hole my hands up and admit i frogot to text back to say we couldn't make it for a few days.

Since then I've tried calling her numerous times and have facbooked her apologising and explaing about the mc (she's had one too so thought she would be sympathetic) and promised not to be so crap and unreliable in future.

But no return call, message, nothing she's blanking me whuch is pretty haesh imo.

We've been mates 11 years so I'm a bit hurt TBH, AIBU or do I deserve it?

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aam · 20/12/2008 16:18

She is being a bit harsh. Modern life is sooo busy. Especially considering the miscarriage.

Helium · 20/12/2008 16:18

Perhaps she's annoyed and also forgot to get back in touch...

sweetcat · 20/12/2008 16:20

Are you sure she is deliberately avoiding you? If so, then more than a bit harsh. Hopefully she also has a good reason and will be in touch soon

LiffeyCanSpellGeansaiNollaig · 20/12/2008 16:22

Does she know about your miscarriage and your deadlines?

I'd be disappointed if I were your friend, but I wouldn't dream of making you feel WORSE by heaping more pressure on you.

I'd expect a friend with all this on her plate to need me to cut her a little slack.

peacelily · 20/12/2008 16:22

no not sure.... bit of my paranoia creeping in as well.

I suppose i'm thinking if a mate of mine messaged saying they'd had a horrible life event I'd get in touch straight away no matter how busy. even if just a quick "thinking of you will call to chat when less busy" type email.

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peacelily · 20/12/2008 16:24

yes she knows, sent her a message through facebook explaining everything and apologising.

other mates have commented on her before, another friend said she felt she didn't treat me v well...

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