DS, 3, goes to a pre school that he's been attending since September. He goes two mornings a week, which raised a few eyebrows from the staff, I think, initially, but he has settled in well, made a few friends and seems happy with going.
At the beginning of last week, his teacher mentioned that they were having "a very informal christmas concert, well not really a concert, just a few songs really" on a day ds doesnt usually go, and asked if he would like to go too. I said he would love to, although timing might be tricky but as it turns out we we were able to get there fine. When I got there it was a full on christmas concert complete with costumes, backdrops and rehearsed performances, it was lovely. As everyone arrived, i asked if he should be with his class, and one of the teachers said he could sit with them if he wanted when they came out. When he went over to sit with the children, he ended up coming back all teary eyed, and im not sure wether he lost his nerve or if he was told to sit with me in the audience. I suppose I felt a bit dissappointed for him that his class mates were all there dressed up, and i wish they had told me so I could have taken him something special to wear too, or dropped him off early so he could join in. BUT im not really sure which children were doing the show, maybe there were just full time or just afternoon children, although there were certainly kids from ds's group there. I do want to state that its not that I wanted to see ds all decked out like joseph reciting the nativity story, I just felt for him not being included with kids he knew doing the songs hed been singing at school, he had been excited when we were going, and then seemed confused and withdrawn when we got there.
Then today, they had santa visiting school. It was agian on a day he doesnt usually go. I wasnt going to send him , as I didn want to seem I was picking and choosing days to get all the treats, but the teachers asked if he would like to go, so he did. When I went to pick up, the head teacher was just escorting santa over the road to the daycare nursery, when she said "OH! I dont think ds has seen santa! Ask his teacher and let me know!" So I asked and it turns out they forgot to take him, although the head says "of course he wasnt forgotten, he was just having too much fun playing", but he was the only one as far as I could see that hadnt been taken.
I did have a few word with the teacher to say i was dissappointed that it appears that he isn't being included in things. And she was apologetic and said it was her first time doing all the christmas stuff as she is new to the job. She is lovely, and I do really like her, I suspect all this is more just miscommunication and not her fault.They did take him accross to the nursery to see santa but I would have thought it would be more fun with a group of class mates.
THEN when i looked through his christmas cards, the school had shoved a letter in the bag not signed, saying that they would be increasing his days to five a week, if i am agreeable, with effect from January. The letter was on a scrappy bit of paper, dated the eleventh, but i only received it in his christmas stuff today, and so could nt discuss it with anyone. I have no reason for why they want to increase his days, and I feel cross that it wasnt mentioned in person.
All these things in isolation would be not that big a deal, but together have irritated me. But aibu, and a bit precious??