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AIBU?

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Original poster

I KNOW I'm being PFBish - but AIBU

23 replies

seeker · 19/12/2008 19:11

....to be really sad that my lovely, beautiful, clever, charming, sassy, sensitive entirely wonderful baby girl has had her hair cut this afternoon so that she looks completely different, is having her ears pierced tomorrow (her gorgeous ears! )...

and has the complete temerity to be 13 on Sunday!

< I do know I ABU actually.....>

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AaliyahsFirstXmas · 19/12/2008 19:12

awww I dont know what to say other than my DD is only 11 months old and i'm scared stiff for the days when she dares to grow up.

NappiesGaloriaInExcelsis · 19/12/2008 19:15

play your cards right and in five more years youll be freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!

poinsettydog · 19/12/2008 19:29

dd1 (12) got her easr pierced 18 months ago and she got her hair cut quite short 7 months ago.

SHe does look different but you know what? She looks beautiful. And when you;ve got used to your new-look dd - which will probably take you about two days max - you'll think she still looks beautiful too. Just in a slightly different way.

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seeker · 19/12/2008 19:34

I think part of the problem is that she really does look amazing with her new hair - she also looks about 17! I feel like locking her in her bedroom and feeding her through a slot in the door until she's 40!

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thinkingandsad · 19/12/2008 19:39

aww Bless!

You are def NOT being ubreasonable!

poinsettydog · 19/12/2008 19:41

ahh yes. All of a sudden you see them moving away from you and being all teenagey

prettybutterfly · 19/12/2008 20:22

Noooooooo... yanbu.
Poor old mum. All will be well though - it's all in the natural order of things.

sweetcat · 19/12/2008 20:27

I know how you feel, my DD had a proper hair style last week. She is 8 but now looks 12, although it really suits her. I still don't recognise her from the back. I had tears in my eyes looking at her swishing in the mirror on the way out of the salon.

God help me when she starts really growing up

SnowOfHands · 19/12/2008 20:27

Oh no.

My dd has happily gone off in the car with dh tonight to buy chinese. Normally she says 'mummy coming?' This is the first time she hasn't.

Oh god she doesn't need me anymore does she?

Shh, she's 19 months.

They don't really turn 13 do they? No, surely not.

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seeker · 19/12/2008 20:30

But I know she'll come back from Scouts at 10.00 and go to bed (complete with the hot water bottle I'm just about to put in it) and cuddle down with her bear and her monkey, just like she's done since she was 6 months old. After she's taken her eye make up off, obviously!

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SilentTerror · 19/12/2008 20:34

My eldest DD is 19,and she is stunning.
Sometimes I Look at her in awe...

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seeker · 19/12/2008 21:05

It's extraordinary, isn't it, silentterror. I look at dd sometimes and think "How the hell did our genes mix together to make that!"

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Cadmum · 19/12/2008 21:11

I cried with DS1 lost his front teeth because he would never, ever look like my baby again. (Not while he was present for fear of scarring him for life.)

I can't bear the thought of him being 13. Let alone his 9 year old sister and don't even get me started about the little ones... Surely this is not inevitable?

Y most certainly are NBU because I am never seldom rarely unreasonable.

Poor you but big congratulations to your DD. It goes way too quicky, doesn't it?

SmileyMylee · 19/12/2008 22:16

Wouldn't it be wonderful to have a 'pause' and 'rewind' button on our children (just for very limited use), it's hard to realise we'll never see those baby and toddler years again. I've spent the last few nights putting their photos into albums and I honestly don't remember them at certain ages. I really need to slow down and enjoy every second with them.

13! I really don't believe my babies will ever be 13!

Lockets · 19/12/2008 22:20

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seeker · 19/12/2008 22:44

She's asleep in bed with her bear and her monkey. We watched a bit of Nigella together before she went and we were both laughing at the over the top-ness of it. It is lovely to have a nearly grown up to share things with. I'm cherishing every moment before she hates me - she still thinks I'm wonderful most of the time. I know it won't last!

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babbi · 19/12/2008 23:10

of course YANBU ....DD only 3 and I think along those lines already !!!

lilolilbethlehem · 19/12/2008 23:40

seeker, DD (DC2 and last) is 11 and I can SOOOO understand where you're coming from.
Tho the thing I find hardest is when "my lovely, beautiful, clever, charming, sassy, sensitive entirely wonderful baby girl" acts like a complete bitch (sorry, no other word fits here). That is harder than watching her grow up in other ways IMO

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seeker · 20/12/2008 09:05

Oh lilo - that's sad. Mine doesn't really do teenager (yet) I'm sure I will share your pain soon. What she does is revert to toddlerdom sometimes - stamping and stropping. But she's done that on and off all her life so no real change yet!

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kiddiz · 20/12/2008 09:21

IME toddlerdom and teenagedom are remarkably similar. Just much harder to do "time out" with a 6ft, 11 stone 15 yr old ds!

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seeker · 21/12/2008 08:41

Well, she's been 13 for four and a half hours and nothing dramatic's happened yet!

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WhileShosheWatchedHerFlocks · 21/12/2008 08:50

Early days give it till 5 hours

poinsettydog · 21/12/2008 17:22

happy birthday to your dd! may she be beautiful forever

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