AIBU to expect dp not to drink beer while dd's friend is here ....?

[dorathesnorer]

Seriously , honest answers? He's come in from work half -hour ago and is on his 2nd small bottle of beer. friend is going home at 5.30, he should be able to wait till then shouldn't he? Don't you think it's disrespectful to friends parents to be drinking while their child is in your home? Btw I'm gagging for a glass of wine myself but would never drink whilst looking after someone elses kids!

If he had drunk 4 or 5 and was in sole charge I would agree. But as it is, I wouldn't, but nothing that wrong with it.

Are you there too? If so, I don't really see what the problem is.

as long as he's not drunk I don't see anything wrong with it

Hmmm.....honest answers were asked for I spose Maybe it's just my jealousy cos I want a drink but I would be annoyed if dd came home from a playdate and said the dad was sat drinking beer.

Mrsjam......he won't stop at 2

Why? If the mother was present and sober, why would the fact that the dad had a beer annoy you?

Best playdates I have and go to with dc's are the ones where the wine comes out

Probably wouldn't drink myself (if no other parents here) until after dcs in bed generally though.

Can't really see any problem with 2 bottles honestly.

Speaking as one who regularly drummed fingers on the counter waiting for dh to arrive home so I could crack open a bottle and still have a responsible potential emergency driver on hand, I understand your irritation.

He's probably playing the "You invited them, your problem" card, non?

As long as there's one sober responsible adult in charge I can't see the harm, I just think you're peeved it's you

i'm a self confessed lush but even 4.39 it way to early to start glugging imo

i don;t see anything wrong with a drink when looking after DCs as long as not drunk, insensible or passing out

those small bottles of beer are quite weak, he is hardly going to be falling down drunk

if you are there too, then it is definitely not an issue

Lol ! Fair enough I spose I obviously am. Eldest dd went to a friends a few months ago and the dad had been drinking beer and had a sweary argument with the mum in front of her I guess that's why I'm worried/annoyed bout dp drinking now (although I know he wouldn't do that).

Yeah you've prob hit the nail on the head their snigger! That and the issue with eldest that once has prob made me a bit paranoid and I wouldn't want friends mum to be annoyed. I do think he could wait till half 5 tho grrr

agree with others, dont see a prob if your man wants a beer while you are there looking after your dd friend

he isnt in charge - you are

A stab in the dark, but is alcohol already an issue for another reason? It that you feel he drinks too much in general?
My ex was an alcoholic. I would have been extremely annoyed if he drank in this situation (even if he wasn't drunk IFYSWIM) in a way which wouldn't even cross my mind with more recent, non-alcoholic partners.

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