To put curtains up in our hall which my DH loathes. But I adore them.

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Our hallway is absolutely freezing, as we live in a big old house with ill fitting doors. My DH hates the idea of a curtain over the front door (he says it is only for elederly people), but we have tried all the other draughtproofing measures, and it is still freezing.

I grew up in a wonderful old house, and we had the most amazing curtains in our sitting room - vintage, really heavy woven fabric with velvet floral motifs. My Mum gave them to me as a keepsake from the house after we moved, and apart from finding them so asthetically pleasing, they also hold such sentimental value for me. (as well as being sufficiently heavy to actually block out the draughts).

After discussion (and by pointing out that it cost a small fortune to get other ones made), I put them up over the front door today. Since my DH has come home from work, all he has done is tell me how vile he thinks they are. I am starting to get really pissed off with this - he is completely discounting my heritage, it took me bloody ages to put them up, and he hasn't actually done anything proactive in sorting out our freezing hallway.

If I wasn't technically challenged, I would post a photo.

AIBU?

no, you aren't.
tell him to shut up and put up., it's curtians for pity's sake

Oh FGS tell him to naff off!!

It's only a bloody curtain. Does he really want to pay out loads of money to have another made??

My DH wouldn't care one way or another tbh.

If it keeps the draughts out then you are saving money on heating too are you not?

Sell it to him that way lol

well I wanted to put some cream ones up over our patio doors and dh doesn't agree

goodness I am 101 and I have curtains at the front door, they cost £40 but had quote for £400 for the same size curtains.

I have two sets hanging to keep the hall warm and stop the heat going out the glass front door and through the drafts (have draft proofed with the "stuff" aswell)

Tell your d/h i would snap your hand off for a swap and stop being such a philistine

You've made me feel better - we're putting curtains over our front door as we have the same problem and I was resisting because of the fogey factor!

Now I know other 'young people' have them, I won't mind so much!

It's his home too, he is entitled to like the stuff that is in it. "vintage velvet floral motifs" aren't my thing either and I wouldn't have them in my home.

You need to find a compromise - yes youare having curtains over the door but you both have to agree on the fabric.

There's something very cool about recycling old and quality items, like curtains in front of a drafty door..... keep your eyes peeled in Elle Deor and I bet you'll find it there!!

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Well I spoke to DH last night about how upset I was becoming with his constant criticisms. He claims he didn't realise that the curtains meant that much to me ( man selective hearing). He has grudgingly accepted that they look pretty good, and they do a great job with the draughts.

I take your point Popcornseller, but we live in a period home, with period decor, so they fit in well.

We also worked out how much it would be to get an alternative curtain made, in fabric we like, and it would be at least £250 (!!). So that decided it for him.

at the magnificent curtainage.

Tell him vintage fabric is FARRRRR superior to new in terms of weight and effectiveness...seriously. The 250 quid ones would not have been as good - really.

I forked out 300 for a vintage velvet pair for the bedroom a few weeks ago, and it was worth every penny - not that it's my money, she says, avoiding checking bank statements for a bit
but the quality is superb, they don'e even make fabric like that any more and if they did it would cost about £2,000 to get curtains that size new.

I'm not kidding! check out second hand velvet curtains on ebay, big ones, see what they have been going for.

How about a compromise and maybe take them down in the spring/summer and put them up again in the autumn ?

I know! These are 10 1/2ft long (you just can't get curtains that long these days) and 13 feet wide per curtain! I have 4 of them. I reckon it would cost at least £4000 for these new.

I wish I could work out how to do photos.

Countingto10 - I have promised they will be down by the end of March.