To stop dd from going to this party?

[christmosschops30]

We have had a long running problem with dd and homework since primary school.
She's a very able child, not massivley academic but bright and can do things when she puts her mind to it.
Shes now in Year 8, was moved up a set when she started high school and we were really pleased.
However this year she has gone back to not writing he homework in her diary, lying about having any, coming home watching tv and saying 'no havent got any homework'. We've tried to liaise with school but they can only do so much like keep checking her diary.
In October, after several 'H' appearing in the diary and some lunchtime detentions we had a big talk and she pulled her socks up and now its slipped back again.

She had a sleepover to go to on Saturday but Ive stopped her from going as its the only thing I have to punish her with. So AIBU to stop her going to the party, because she thinks I am the worst mother in the world!

Not unreasonable. However did you find out why she was doing it? COuld that have started again?

Is she being bullied?? I only ask because this happened to me. I just kinda gave up.

same here. My mum always beleived me when I said I'd done it at school or the library because i never lied about anything else. I was always picked on for being "Teachers pet" "brainbox" etc. I stopped doing my homework so that they would stop getting at me for being top all the time.

you must not rob children of party opportunities!

could you set up a weekly reward for doing homework?

fiofio we have tried that and she just takes the piss. Two weeks ago I said she could go on the school trip to disney if she did her homework ..... hey presto in one ear and out the other.

I dont think shes being bullied, she has always been terribly lazy when it comes to homework, its not a new thing. She has lots of friends but generally just prefers spending time with them or watching Miley effin Cyrus [grrr}

unplug the telly???

agree- telly for an hour in evening if homework done. if not- no tv

hit em where it hurts

ask her teachers - what do they think - they see her in school every day and they'll be able to give you a clue as to whether its devious behaviour or masking something else behaviour

I feel your pain.

I have a 13 yr old, year 8 dd just like this. She used to do well in school, cos she put some effort in and when she was in primary school, we had much more insight into what she should be doing. She also used to be very sporty, now can't be arsed.

These days, my dd's priorities are

1. MSN
2. boys
3. friends
4. food
5. WWF wrestling...huh ??
6. her family
7. school (as a means to socialise)
8. homework

She is lazy, selfish, thinks money grows on trees and that any kind of routine we try to instill into her life is just trying to wreck it. We are mean, controlling and have only two uses

1. to provide
2. to serve

You are not alone.