To think my friend is bloody unbelievable sometimes.....

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My friend has had hard time recently and I have listened to her every day for a year now. That doesn't bother me I am happy to offer support. She is one of those though that when you try and say something about yourself, she says "hmm yeah, anyway.." and then goes back to her own troubles.
Today she has taken the biscuit and rang me to ask me where her and 12 friends should go for her friends birthday meal tonight. No suggestion of an invitation for me!!! She wanted me to think of places that would be sutable for them as she was too busy at work.

Now, please tell me, that is just plain bizarre and quite rude isn't it?

When she calls back, just say 'Sorry, I haven't had the chance to think of anywhere for you, I've been too busy at home.'

And she doesn't sound like the sort of friend you need or want, so I'd start putting some distance between you.

Tell her to fark orf

Is she really a friend - she sounds awful.

Well if it was her friend's birthday, not sure why you would get an invitation anyway?

And she was asking you for advice, surely?

I can understand that you might be a bit tired of just being a sounding board for her to download onto, but in this specific instance I think YAB a little bit U.

Cheek cow - I'd stop being so helpful if she's that kind of "friend"

Tell her somewhere really crap.

she is being thoughtless and rude, and you are right to moan......we all need to offload occasionally and I think she has offloaded to you once too often and you have now got to the end of your tether with her.

If I were you, I would recommend the shittiet place possible, but that is having mean thoughts and probably not fair.

nah......tell her that you cannot possibly think of anywhere as you busy with some other frieds right now ((ie, Us))

She obviously thinks you're her mother.

How bizarre! Also arrogant to assume that you are less busy than her so able to give the matter thought - when you won't even be going to enjoy the evening out!!

I don't think that asking for a restaurant recommendation is much of an imposition tbh. I'm assuming that as you say it's her friend's birthday that the birthday girl is not a close friend of yours, so why would you expect an invite?

I suspect that you are (probably rightly) annoyed at being supportive all the time and her not showing interest in your life but transferring your annoyance onto something else. I wouldn't listen to someone's troubles every day for a year, do you fear it would make you a horrible person to tell her to put a sock in it?

Her friend is actually a mutual friend too!! Although we aren't that good friends. I have been out with them before and we are part of the same circle. I wouldn't be 'brave' enough to tell her to shut up- I couldn't be arsed with the repercussions.

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why do you stay friends with her?

FranSan has it exactly right. The relationship (sorry, but it's definitely not a friendship as I understand the term) is hopelessly unbalanced and she thinks you are her mum!

YOu aren't 'owed' an invite from your this girl's friend just because you always listen to her moaning, though. Sorry.