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AIBU?

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to expect not to feed my son in the same room as another mother changes poo

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lipstickjungle · 18/12/2008 12:29

yesterday i went to a very popular mother and baby shop and was shocked to find that they have combined their nursing room into a an area with diaper bins and changing area, as i was feeding my son another mom was changing her baby as she lifted the bin to deposit the diaper the stench was "believeable"-i went up to the manager and told her the situation was unbearable the old set up was good, and she said we can't do anything and i said hold on i spend a lot of money in ur shop and you even sell our details to other companies you can't do this, a man there maybe the other manager said we do change the bins i said that's not the point its unhygienic sir what i suggest is you go and sit in there and have ur lunch at least he did say maybe we could just have one thing going please lets have ur views we need this changed -its in hammersmith thanks

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babylovessanta · 18/12/2008 21:15

YANBU - it is vile - best avoided.

VisionsOfSugarPlums · 18/12/2008 21:15

I don't like "feeding rooms" on principle. Why should anyone have to hide themselves away to feed a baby is beyond me and even if you are ff, most cafes will give you some hot water to warm a bottle. Why babies are such second-class citizens that they have to be segregated from the rest of the population to eat is beyond me.
That said, if a feeding room is provided, it is horrible to have it also serve the purpose of a changing room.

MrsWilburton · 18/12/2008 21:15

lipstickjungle you need to NOT use text speak

domesticslattern · 18/12/2008 21:19

You asked a question lipstick jungle, and I'm afraid I find it hard to get worked up on your behalf. Firstly, because I have always loathed and detested Mothercare and try to stay out of them as much as possible. And secondly because I feel almost a moral duty NOT to use feeding rooms, because they imply that bf is somehow embarassing and shameful. Wouldn't you much rather sit down in a nice quiet cafe or something rather than lock yourself in a glorified storecupboard?

babylovessanta · 18/12/2008 21:21

Not everyone feels comfortable breastfeeding in public and want to be hidden away.

pamelat · 18/12/2008 21:22

I never used a feeding room but it was reassuring to know they were there, especially if I went out by myself. A lot of people arent comfortable with breast feeding in public.

WhatFreshMistletoeIsThis · 18/12/2008 21:38

oh fgs - do you change your baby at home in the same room you feed him or her in or do you maintain a strict segregation? Have you ever fed your baby in the bathroom as your toddler was having a poo?

How is it disgusting to bf in the same room as where nappy changes happen, do you sit on the changing mat or in the bin to do it?

If the rooms are actally dirty, that's rubbish, but otherwise YABU.

TheYearOfTheCat · 18/12/2008 21:40

I am also confused about why Mothercare would sell your personal details to other companies, and how that is relevant to the issue.

If you don't want a company to pass on your details, either you don't give them, or you indicate that you do not want the details passed on, which the Data Protection Act requires all companies to provide you with the option of specifying this.

TheTwelveDAISYofChristmas · 18/12/2008 21:51

I find it bizarre that they don't have a loo in the changing room or a pushchair accessible toilet in my local mothercare (but they do have a spearate feeding room), so you have to leave your baby unattended while you go to the loo.

re the feeding though, they have a couple of lovely leather sofas in the maternity clothing section so I use them if I need to, but would rather go and sit in the next door Costa coffee shop.

tis easily the worst shop on the high street for customer service.

psychohohohoho · 18/12/2008 21:58

I cannot see the problem with the complaining.........I never used the changing rooms to feed in, Isat in a cafe with a drink and at anyone ho would suggestI g sit in a loo somewhere!

I actaully don;t agree wih the feeding rooms being in the nappy change roms, but I just used other options.........something we an all do IMHO.

beanieb · 18/12/2008 22:00

"those of you who want to defend these shops please dont -if you wish to say they are out of order please do."

EH?

checks she is in the AIBU forum

Yup

sleepyeyes · 18/12/2008 23:17

Ok I've been to the mothercare in Hammersmith, it is a very small room but is usually kept fairly clean, if there was a full smelly bin it would have smelled awful in such a small space.
But...there are plenty of places you could have used nearby to sit and feed your DC so you didnt need to use the room plus its there free of charge so I feel YABU.

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 19/12/2008 09:20

A feeding room is not a right. It's not necessary at all, unlike, say, a toilet or, to a lesser extent, changing facilities. It's not like you were forced to sit on a toilet to feed your baby.

Invest in a large shawl and use a bench.

bellabelly · 19/12/2008 09:48

The hammersmith mothercare is AWFUL - just don't go there full stop.

gabygirl · 19/12/2008 10:00

Personally I'd rather everyone bf in public anyway - on shopping centre benches, in cafes, on public transport. If breastfeeding wasn't so invisible I'm sure more people would do it,and do it for longer.

domesticslattern · 19/12/2008 10:20

hear hear gabygirl

ummadam · 19/12/2008 14:04

I quite liked feeding rooms as sometimes I prefered to be somewhere quiet than a busy cafe. It wouldn't bother me if there was a changing area in the same room. I wash my hands after changing my son's nappy but he gets changed in his room as there isn't enough floor room in the bathroom - and that is where he gets his bedtime milk aswell. By all means complain, there is no harm in expressing your point of view if it is important to you but personally, marketing ploy or not I'm just pleased there is someone to feed him and generally get sorted out - expecially when it's wet and windy and you've got 14 different layers on each of you.

whonickedmynickname · 19/12/2008 15:23

mothercare has shocking customer service and shocking hygiene imho - we need to complain more.

I was skint when my baby was first born so I couldn't afford a coffee in an exhorbitant cafe every time he needed feeding...which was often!

But then there are considerable lack of toilet facilities too....remember being pregnant and deperate to pee - and NOWHERE within 10 miles to go?........

CuppaTeaJanice · 19/12/2008 16:57

The room in the Eastbourne branch is lovely though.....maybe we should all move there!!!

hotCheeseBurns · 21/12/2008 17:39

Wandering slightly off topic, but is anyone else familiar with the baby changing room in the big shopping centre in Brighton? What the hell is going on in there? It's always stuffy and humid and stinks to high heaven. Absoultely horrible. Urrgghhh...

bloss · 21/12/2008 17:43

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needmorecoffee · 21/12/2008 17:53

people were banging on about this 17 years ago when my first was born. Nothing has changed. Feed the baby anywhere and be thankfull there's also somewhere to change your baby. Once they reach 4 there is nowhere to change a nappy, and once they are 15 you are completely buggered and just can't go out.

thisisyesterday · 21/12/2008 17:56

but you don't have to sit in a cafe either, do you?
find a bench or something somewhere? sit on a sofa in argos or a nursing chair in mothercare? i dunno, I've usually found there is somewhere I can go and I don't think i have ever sat in a feeding area with ds2 so far and he's 14 months old.

hotcheeseburns, YES! that room is absolutely vile. in fact, most of the toilets in there are. stinky, hot, no ventilation. mankoid. I suppose we should be thankful there isn't an attached feeding area lol

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