To think DH should have taken DS's book bag to school?

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As background, DH take DS to school every day and I collect up.

DH has texted me that he has not taken DS's book bag to school today as it is the Christmas party. I texted back to ask if had taken in the letter for football club that was in the bag (had to be in today or DS won't get a place, DH knew about it). DH hasn't.

Point out to DH that DS will miss out on any letters being sent home (presuming the TA just puts one in every book bag and makes no attempt to check taht all bags are all there) and I will now have to chase them up.

DH says I am being unnecessarily annoyed as he thought it was a good idea not to take the bag in on party day as it would get in the way - I point out if the school hadn't want them brought in they would have sent home a letter (as they have done on other occasions).

DH reckons it is all my fault for not telling him things he needs to know. I make the (ok somewhat sarcastic) point that I am not telling him anything that is not written on the school newsletters and perhaps I need to give him a summary of their key points in the future.

So I now have to grovel to DS's teacher to see if he can still get into football club and if there is anything that should have been sent home. And DH still thinks it is my fault.

So AIBU to think DH should have taken DS's book bag into school? Or is it all my fault for not leaving detailed instructions?

I think it all sounds like a rather petty argument tbh!

Could you just phone the school to explain about forgotten book bag and football club?

Jeez, if he forgot, he forgot!!!! Chill out.

Things like this happen all the time in our house.

Ring the school and explain your predicament, see if DS can get into football team

He didn't forget, he made the concious decision not to take it. I would have been less annoyed (ok still annoyed) if he HAD just forgotten it.

Not worth getting stressed over though, surely? It's a book bag! You can ask if there are any letters or anything later at pick up

IME when the little things start to wind you up there's normally something bigger going on... have you been rowing a lot lately? Christmas stress?

Oh he didn't forget - he made a mistake. I expect you've made a few mistakes before too.

Just annoyed about the football club letter really ... DS has been desperate to do it for ages and this is the first time children in Reception have been allowed to join. There are limited places and it was first come first served so I am pretty sure that not getting the letter in this morning now means DS won't get in. OK, so he might not have got a place anyway, but DH was equally aware of how much DS wanted to go and was assuring me last night he'd make sure he'd hand in the letter to his teacher etc.

holy fuck-chill out
Why do you have to grovel to the teacher,explain the note was forgotten today ,should suffice?

YANBU. He made the conscious decision, but it was the wrong one (because you had it covered re: the football club) BUT he's now trying to blame the OP.
Typical male behaviour, I'm afraid. My DH booked a squash match which clashed with DD's play, and tried to claim it was my fault for not telling him. Like I knew he was booking it. He said "how was I s'posed to know the play was then? Noone told me." I replied, a little too curtly, apparently, that he should b well read newsletters then. He looked at me, blankly!

You could take the letter into school with you when you pick up.

Clam - newsletters????? Don't think my dh knows they exist, much less would ever dream of reading one!

ROFL

Would your child be in reception by any chance?

You have gone really OTT on this, but I think you know that by now. It is not a huge problem. You're right though he may not get a place at football club but there's always next time (I'd phone school office and ask but our school is first come with payment, first served) but they will hand out any necessary letters.

OMG it is just a bag!

Phone the school and tell them the letter was not sent in my error, and then take the letter to school when you pick him up later.

It is not a big deal IMO

Was your dh wearing the right trousers when he went out, or was he wearing the ones you only let him wear on Fridays?

YABU. Imagine if he kicked off with you about something so insignificant? I'm sure you'd feel affronted. It sounds like he can't do right for doing wrong to me.

Is this really worth an argument?

yep, you need to stand back, both of you, this is blowing way out of proportion!

YABU. Imagine if he kicked off with you about something so insignificant? I'm sure you'd feel affronted. It sounds like he can't do right for doing wrong to me.

at Seeker's Friday trousers

you are picking him up?

hand over letter and ask if there are any more at hometime

did you just want to have a go at dh for any spurious reason you could think up?

I know it's not a big thing but it is one more thing to sort out when I'm already busy and seeing the teacher at hometime is a PITA as she's always kneedeep in other parents.

As for the * football club, DS has only been going on about it all term, and I did impress on DH the importance of delivering said letter.

Anyway letter is handed over, apparently there "may" be a couple of spaces free so fingers crossed and I have duly collected all DS's book bag letters.

I don't think I'm being unreasonable that I'm annoyed that DH forgot to do something that I'd impressed on him to do and that he would have done if he hadn't changed his normal behaviour (he takes the bag every other day) but that then DH thinks it's my fault. Twas easy enough to say "sorry, I should have taken it".

Why d'you post in AIBU then?!

ahem. Chill, its hopefully all sorted, no bones broken etc. Over and done with

If DS was really keen on the football he would have made sure he had the letter.