To expect my nanny NOT to feed my two year old a McDonalds Happy Meal?

[coolbeans]

I know it's not the end of the world and he is nearly three but I don't think it's unreasonable to expect her to ASK me, at least, before takes him out and stuffs him full of chicken nuggets and chips for lunch.

I'm not against McD's as such, but he's still really little and there's no need to take him there yet - it's not a bloody treat - as she seems to think.

I think that's what has annoyed me most. It's just food, I don't want him associating it with being a "treat" outing.

Well then why would a nanny take a child to MacDonald's? Is a nanny purposefully malnourishing a child good childcare practice?

Maybe it's not self-evident but isn't there enough of a grey area for the nanny to have checked with Coolbeans before doing it?
I would check with a parent before giving a child "treat" food as I know that different people have different ideas about what they consider acceptable and Maccy Ds might not fall into everyone's idea of acceptable food.

There is a huge difference between one or two smarties per week used to keep the peace in a classroom of 30 4-year olds, and a whole happy meal in a 1:1 nanny:child relationship.

I think that a nanny taking a 2 year old child to McDonald's without the parents express permission is probably considered gross misconduct around here. You could give a formal warning.

I'm ever so grateful that I don't live in Paris.

I don't think the occasional McDonalds will do any harm for an almost 3 year old.

Seriously Anna, get a fucking grip.
Are you for real?
A formal warning???

To answer the OP, only if you expressly asked her not to.

"purposefully malnourishing a child"

As a scientist, I am trying to ascertain how a child can become malnourished from having one happy meal whilst it has been on the earth for at least 24 months?

tbh, I can hardly believe what I am reading here. Surely whatever the nanny did, she acted in good faith. In her eyes it was a "treat" so in her eyes she was being kind/fun/etc to the child. I certainly wouldn't berate her for that just because OP has a hang up about MacDonalds. I don't like it either - but my kids love it - and they do see it as a treat which they might have once every 6 months or so... no, I don't particularly like the food, but hey, it's not going to kill them.... I think a few people should step off their pedestals and let kids be kids occasionally. As for OP - just have a nice word with your nanny and explain your feelings - but don't make her feel terrible as if she was trying to poison your dc.

You are a lunatic Anna and your ideas are so extreme. If you are going to keep posting this sort of rubbish no one will take you seriously. "Purposeful malnourishment" ONE HAPPY MEAL!!!!!

I am wondering now how exactly Coolbeans expects her child/ren to eat 'unprocessed' potato and chicken? If cooking is 'processing' we are all a bit limited, eh?
I bet if she'd taken him to, say, Cafe Rouge and allowed him to have 'chicken gougons' and 'frites', nobody would be having a cow.
All my children have gone to McDonalds after swimming once fortnight or so. They have a choice of cheese/burger (beef, full of iron and protein, cheese, calcium vits A &D), fishfingers (lean protein), or chicken gougons (more protein, iron), a bag of chips between them (vitamin C, carbohydrate), a fruit bag each, and either water, milk or juice. This is a much better, more nutritious meal than, say, a ham or cheese baguette, yet I bet if someone said, 'my nanny gave my three year old a cheese baguette, some milk and an apple, would anyone be talking about 'malnourishment'? Of course not. It's ridiculous.
You can't malnourish a child with a single meal. Going OUT and getting a TOY out of a brightly coloured box is a treat. Of course it's not a treat for you, doesn't mean it can't be a pleasure for a small child.

Yes.

But there are pretty strict laws on nutrition in childcare settings here - school food, nursery food etc, no snacks at school etc.

I'm not a lunatic, but I live in different food culture, that's for sure.

Give a formal warning.

This is turning out to be like the smoking thread. The Gestapo are on the march!

This isn't a 'childcare setting'.

Completely agree wrapstar. Absolute madness. As for Anna... really, I've rarely heard such nonsense.

"Around here?" And where would that be?
Paris? Where you are surrounded by McDonalds?

Things are different here. Nannies can hit their charges in a public place and no-one bats an eyelid.

OK, now you've lost me totally. You can HIT a child, but feeding them a MacDonalds is gross misconduct..... even you must see how ridiculous that sounds?

Again thank heavens I don't live in Paris. That's awful.

Hitting their charges is OK, but giving them McDs isn't?! That's truly insane!

Anna
I think you have some very detatched and frankly ridiculously snobbish ideas about your culture. I have lived in Paris too (you are not the only one you know) and plenty of very professional and well off parents frequently take their children to Mc Donalds.

I am pmsl at 'gross misconduct' and 'malnurishment' for feeding a toddler chicken nuggets and french fries

You either joking or barking