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To expect my nanny NOT to feed my two year old a McDonalds Happy Meal?

654 replies

coolbeans · 18/12/2008 10:06

I know it's not the end of the world and he is nearly three but I don't think it's unreasonable to expect her to ASK me, at least, before takes him out and stuffs him full of chicken nuggets and chips for lunch.

I'm not against McD's as such, but he's still really little and there's no need to take him there yet - it's not a bloody treat - as she seems to think.

I think that's what has annoyed me most. It's just food, I don't want him associating it with being a "treat" outing.

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harpsiheraldangelssing · 18/12/2008 21:43

bloody hell, who'd be a nanny, eh?

FioFio · 18/12/2008 22:09

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piscesmoon · 18/12/2008 22:11

Not me harpsi-I think the DCs would be lovely but the parents a nightmare-you would have to pick your employer very carefully!

mumeeee · 18/12/2008 22:12

YABU,

welliemum · 19/12/2008 00:41

True, wrapstar, but then a pile of bat poo in a brightly coloured box with a surprise toy would be a treat for a 2 year old. And a whole lot cheaper

Aha, the search for dd2's Christmas present is over...

maidenvoyage · 19/12/2008 00:59

omg started to read this and then thought this is madness. it all started over macdonalds. all i can say is get rid of the nanny if you think she is so bad and look after your own child

flaminhell · 19/12/2008 01:09

Christ its a maccy d's not Ecstasy.

Anna8888 · 19/12/2008 07:30

There is nothing "hypocritical" about expecting a nanny to keep within boundaries of behaviour during her hours of duty that you as parent do not always keep within as a parent.

That is just normal professional practice.

welliemum · 19/12/2008 07:48

Surely that's the point of this thread though, ie that it's not poison/ a class A drug/ the end of the world?

Because if McD's food was that harmful, no professional nanny would dream of feeding it to a child and there'd be nothing to discuss.

It's the grey area stuff that makes for good fist fights discussions on MN, not the obvious stuff.

Anna8888 · 19/12/2008 07:53

I think the point of this thread is that employers fondly imagine that nannies are professional child carers who understand the concept of the difference between their role as a paid professional, and the boundaries within which they need to operate, and the role of parents.

But actually it has been made patently obvious that nannies think they should be able to do what the hell they like all day long with their charges unless it has been spelled out to them that the parents do not wish them to.

JaneLumley · 19/12/2008 08:10

Totally agree, Anna, which is why I decided not to have nanny or ap with 2nd child.

Previous nannies (2 in 5 years) were explicitly told no Mickey D, no Pizza Hut etc, so that (blushing, proud boast, only thing I think I did as planned) neither of my kids has ever eaten any fast food ever. Everything else went south, but I stuck to that.

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Anna8888 · 19/12/2008 08:23

It was totally unprofessional to have done so, Fio.

I asked my DP last night what he would have done had the DSSs nanny done this. "Sack her" he said, without a second's hesitation.

southeastastra · 19/12/2008 08:28

rofl at this thread

gawd help the poor nannies

JollyPirate · 19/12/2008 08:30

Blimey - am new to this thread. Have never taken DS to McDs - don't like it and think their practices are dubious. However, he has been to a friend's party at a McDs (and of course LOVED it).
The nanny took a child to McDs - tell her you don't want the child taken there again and perhaps explain why if you want to but then leave it - it's only "gross misconduct" if she then ignores you.

Some of the posts in this thread have made me laugh out loud (but could equally make me cry). Some of you seriously need to get over yourselves. How dare the "help" make a decision without consulting you first. Shocking.

psychohohohoho · 19/12/2008 08:34

Oh FFS, is this still going on???

some of you are truly insane......sack the nanny for going to McD's???

piscesmoon · 19/12/2008 08:43

I hope you are going to relax soon JaneLumley or you will have problems later-when most DCs have got past the stage of thinking Pizza Hut or KFC is a treat, yours won't be able to get enough of it!
There comes a time when even the most controlling of parents can't police your DCs every mouthful! When they get to teenage you will look back and smile to see that you got in such a state about a one off Happy Meal!

PingpingsatonSantasface · 19/12/2008 08:48

PMSL at sack the nanny this thread is not serious. OP never told the Nanny that the child was not allowed macdonalds get over it, Explain to the nanny that you don't want your child eating there and get on with your life.

If your that bothered look after your own bloody child.

I feel really sorry for your Nanny.

JaneLumley what do you feed your children? Have they ever had chips for the chipshop

Pantofino · 19/12/2008 08:51

"employers fondly imagine that nannies are professional child carers who understand the concept of the difference between their role as a paid professional, and the boundaries within which they need to operate, and the role of parents".

I sorry Anna, but to be blunt I think you have now disappeared up your own arse.

needmorecoffee · 19/12/2008 08:52

MacD's always seems full. Seems like most people think an occasional meal there isn't child abuse.
I think fretting about one bloody meal means you have waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much time on your hands and not enoguh to worry about.

PingpingsatonSantasface · 19/12/2008 08:58

HA HA HA HA HA HA HA Pantofino your post has made my day I was in a shit mood until I read that HA ROFL

FioFio · 19/12/2008 09:27

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silentnightplease · 19/12/2008 09:34

Sacking someone for feeding your DC Mac Ds seems very harsh. Have you checked the bin for empty fruit shoot bottles?!

georgiemum · 19/12/2008 09:37

Oh Lord. It's all about personal choice. If she does something you don't like, tell her and ask her not to do it again. Simple as that. You need to tell her beforehand what you like and don't like. A McD won't kill anyone but you might have a stroke stressing about it.

Sack her is she is stealing or thumping the kids. Or sleeping with your husband. Or boozing from your supplies. Or selling your stuff on e-bay.

Anna8888 · 19/12/2008 09:39

Oh you probably couldn't sack a nanny here for hitting the children. But for feeding them crap wouldn't be so difficult

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