To expect my nanny NOT to feed my two year old a McDonalds Happy Meal?

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I know it's not the end of the world and he is nearly three but I don't think it's unreasonable to expect her to ASK me, at least, before takes him out and stuffs him full of chicken nuggets and chips for lunch.

I'm not against McD's as such, but he's still really little and there's no need to take him there yet - it's not a bloody treat - as she seems to think.

I think that's what has annoyed me most. It's just food, I don't want him associating it with being a "treat" outing.

Gosh, yes, because eating chips with poor people is exactly the same as beating children to death.

wrapstar are you very stupid?

this is one of the funniest threads we've had on here for a loooonngg time.

anyone can do tragedy, but it takes a genius to make people laugh.

happy trolling Christmas to you all!

I would hate my children having macdonalds food. I used to work there in my student days and feel ill thinking that I used to eat the food as it was free for staff. If you have to eat there I think the filet of fish is the safest bet if they still do it.

I would avoid giving my DCs this kind of processed meat. If My DS is ever invited to a wacky warehouse party I always put him down for the pizza option (and no fruit shoot of course).

However at 2 I don't think ops DC is going to be thinking is this a treat or not..the only possible harm done is a bit more salt than normal food and whatever is in the chicken nuggets.

Maybe OP should be a SAHM to retain control of her DCs diet for longer or employ a nanny whoe shares ops values in terms of diet.

As blueshoes already said

A cleaner, window cleaner, lawyer are all very different from someone you employ to bring up a child.

Part of the point of employing a nanny is they look after your child in your home and therefore do things your way - that's why I, for one, choose to have a nanny rather than use a childminder or nursery. Having said that, I think a nanny/parent relationship only works if you are relaxed about it and accept they'll occasionally do things you wouldn't and then pick your battles. Recently my lovely nanny told me she'd given dd2 (18 months) some of her tea to drink and she'd liked it. Apparently, where she comes from this is normal. I gently said giving caffeinated drinks to babies and small children wasn't on and not to do it again. She said fine, I won't do it again and I trust her to keep to that. If the OP's nanny reacts in the same way then that is the mark of a professional, being willing to take on board constructive criticism from the employer.

I think the OP did the sensible thing - asked the nanny nicely not to do it again - and is probably watching open mouthed at all the lunacy that has been unleashed. I know I am.

FGS next you will be telling her not to allow him to go to a birthday party because they get cake! ITS A TREAT outing!
Oh and for those saying whats treat about it you only need to ask the toddler!
Having anything when its banned is a treat!

Yes, I'm so incredibly stupid I can see the difference between sometimes eating chips, and beating children. How dumb is that?

Yaroo, your perspective is decidely dodgy, ma cherie.

Well, Fio, clearly fast-food chips are evil, bad and deadly, especially if eaten sitting on a plastic chair with poor people nearby. However, of course, eating frites while sitting on a wooden chair surrounded by the middle classes is entirely different, from a nutritional standpoint. Are you very stupid? Hmm?

Sorry I am even more ROFL at the evils of tea! Most children who I grew up with drank it from toddler age and coffee for that matter. Tea actually has anti oxidants in it which are good for us allegedly.
If she likes tea then get her decaff! Thats the only way may then 12mth old would have any milk as she would never drink it on its own from a cup.

Tannin is an iron inhibitor. Too much tea can lead to anaemia in young children.

jujumaman - I don't agreew with your analysis.

The difference is that since childcarers are poorly paid for the job they do, they are generally less skilled than the job requires, hence the need to micromanage.

beating children and eating chocolate for breakfast is ok because that's what Frenchies do

McDonald's is common and child minders should be mind readers.

I heart you Fio.

waves bonjour to fio and sends lots of bisous.

HensMum

The lunacy comes from the OP who did not express clearly what the nanny could or could not feed her child. She obviosuly feels strongly about McD and other fast food so therefore should have been explicit about it. The nanny is not a mind reader and was obviously comfortable taking the child to McD because her employer had obviously never expressed her feelings on the matter.

The nanny is not a mind reader. The fault lies with the OP.

It is lunacy to have strong feelings about what your child can and cannot eat but not communicate it to the person who you entrust to look after them.

Ah, I think I see what Anna is trying to say, if the childcarer is thick and common, she will take your children to common places and your child might become slightly common. Which is bad. And it's pointless talking to thick, common people.

I actually offered my 4 yo a cup of tea at the weekend. She looked at me like I was a crazy person. She'd bite my hand off for a fruit shoot though.

mais alors, alors, i was toute simplement pointing out that ze isolation of ze incident does not prevent it from being an incident

Eating chocolate and bread for breakfast is good, because it is posh.
Eating meat, bread and potatoes cooked in vegetable oil for lunch is bad, because it is common.

Mytether .

Fair enough. I haven't actually investigated the pros and cons of tea - just a kneejerk thing (I hate tea myself and so does my mum and granny, so I think it was mostly shock that any child of mine could drink the stuff).

But that is my neurotic preference. One I don't expect a nanny to second guess. Personally, I wouldn't be upset about Mcdonalds, so long as it was only occasional. I have a very skinny friend who hits the roof because she keeps finding her nanny has been feeding her dcs biscuits. Again, wouldn't bother me, sends friend into orbit. The point is we all have weird mum foibles and if you're going to employ a nanny then you have to inform the nanny of these (aka micromange her) if you want her to stick by them. It involves- what - a 20-second conversation once every fortnight?