Are we being unreasonable ... not to buy each other Christmas gifts or anniversary gifts?

[prettybutterfly]

DH and I have just decided not to get each other anything for Christmas as things are quite tight financially. Also it's our 8th anniversary tomorrow and we're not doing anything except exchanging cards (and I'm going to make one!).

Are we being reasonable or is this just ludicrously tightwaddish?

Yanbu.
You are being sensible.

YANBU. Me and my dp have agreed the same thing. We are buying for children and doing token gifts to family members but not for each other.

Why not cook each other dinner or do something nice for each other instead?

DH and I give each other time ALONE as gifts.

Priceless, IMO.

We don't do Christmas or anniversary presents. It's never been a financial thing, I just don't need anymore clutter in my life. I would far rather have a massage (from dh) or other bedroom-based treat. DH never remembers our anniversary anyway.

YANBU

We don't bother with anniversary presents even when times are good. We just reminisce

Course you are not being tight-wads. Sounds like you are both in agreement about what is the right thing to do at the moment. That has got to be a good thing! Have a lovely anniversary!

Dh and I do buy Christmas & birthday presents but not anniversary presents - I don't see the point in buying presents for the sake of buying presents, IYSWIM.
So no YADNBU.

No
Pointless present buying needs to be stopped.
And card giving.

Shall I bin the card?
NO, I'm not binning it - it's beeyootiful!

Glad you lot think it's unmad, as my mother thinks it means that we hate each other and will spilt up and I'll want to move in with her with the kids and make her babysit all the time.

Oh no,home made cards lovley and quite a lot of others too.
I mean more the mindless card giving that goes on at Christmas.

I so agree Moondog!

Phew!

I didn't even kid my own kids birthday presents for years.

no we're not either and our anny is the 27th

my present is staying married to him

We don't do Xmas presents - can't be bothered, not fussed etc etc

Anniversaries - we take turns to arrange something nice to do together (e.g. night away in a hotel), but don't exchange gifts.

Presents are reserved for birthdays.

I don't actually want or need a constant stream of presents!

Very good DJ

man, we certainly don't do cards (though I'm sure yours is lovely!)

we rarely do gifts either...though do do stocking which I love

we're the same - seems silly now as all comes out of joint acc etc and we buy what we want when we need it during the year. We got a new car this year and just said that's enough, that is our present to each other for birthdays and xmas - I did buy him a jumper in the gap sale today saying that which I might wrap up and put under the tree seeing as we are so close to xmas.

What would happen if you went to a triplets party?
Would you give just one card for all of them or individual ones?
My children did go to a triplets party and they each had a card but a big present they could share together.
The OP is YABU as each child is an individual and that should be respected.
At least its all over in one go!

Er, Ripeberry, I think you meant to post that on Katie's thread!

ripeberry are you on the wrong thread per chance or do I REALLY have to get DH a present?!?!

Oops! stupid computer froze right after i pressed enter. Wondered why this thread came up
Anyway, YANBU for not giving gifts, just cook a nice meal (or get him to cook for you) and have a good time in the sack

lol, he's on nightshift so if I'm having a good time in the sack he'll not be best pleased

A good time in the sack! Aye - some SLEEP!

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