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Original poster

to not write xmas cards to my 2yo dds friends at nursery?

51 replies

mytetherisending · 17/12/2008 19:26

I collected my dd1 2yo on monday who was armed with a card from a fellow toddler friend.
Would you expect to write xmas cards for children this young.
I only remember sending them once I could write them/sign them and read them!

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VinegarTitsTheSeasonToBeJolly · 17/12/2008 21:14

YANBU i'm not writing any for my 2 yr to give at nursery either

moondog · 17/12/2008 21:16

No
It;s fucking ridiculous and a scandalous waste of time money and paper.

dilemma456 · 17/12/2008 21:20

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liath · 17/12/2008 21:25

YANBU.

Fucksake.

What next? Toddler proms when they move up to primary school?

Argh. Work Christmas cards are bad enough.

StealthPolarBear · 17/12/2008 21:28

I did it out of guilt as I kept getting more and more. Did all staff, most kids, felt all smug.
Went in today and guess what....he has presents! I draw the line I'm afraid

moondog · 17/12/2008 21:28

Oh Christ, you don't do work ones do you?
Stop it, it's so liberating.

MrsMattie · 17/12/2008 21:29

Jesus, NO. I am NOT writing 30 cards to kids DS doesn't even play with. just to impress other parents.

In other words, I have a life.

piscesmoon · 17/12/2008 21:44

Don't even think of it-she can't write them and she can't read them! Utterly pointless.

madrush · 17/12/2008 21:54

Ask for a list of names from the staff, I've LOL at ours - we have a Lila-Grace and a Shiloh, don't think they're Kate Moss and the Jolie-Pitt offspring though! (apologies in advance if they're your chosen names)

My DD2 wanted to buy and write cards (big kisses over my writing) because her older sister does, so we decided to send to staff because they're lovely and deserve a big thank you (and a tin of biscuits, lack of imagination on that one).

Added in three children, two she talks about (although I've never worked out which they are) and another whose mum I know. I read the first 5 names on "class list" to her and she looked at me blankly... I gave up!

ScottishMummy · 17/12/2008 21:56

LOL at card refuseniks asserting the alleged higher ground "i have a life".fanfeckintastic all us mummy so called no-lifers will continue to maintain affirmation and acknowledgement of lo nursery chums

Rookietherednosedreindeer · 17/12/2008 22:09

But children acknowledge their nursery friends every day by playing with them, perhaps giving them a hug and saying hello. In the same way that I don't feel the need to send a card to someone who sits 5 foot away from me and sign it from my family they have never met to their family I have never met, I'm not sure why additional acknowledgement is required.

piscesmoon · 17/12/2008 22:43

My DS summed it up at a very young age, he asked why should he write to Ben from Tom and get one back saying to Tom from Ben?-I couldn't give him a sensible reason ,as I don't send to people I see every day either.

MrsMattie · 17/12/2008 22:46

But my child doesn't need me to write 30 pointless cards in order to 'acknowledge' his classmates. They are 3 and 4 yr olds...

piscesmoon · 17/12/2008 22:47

Do you feel that your DC is more socially accepted if they get Christmas cards?

katiechops · 17/12/2008 23:01

I did think that it was a bit silly and pointless writing out a load of cards on DD's behalf and wasn't going to send any in for the kids. However she was really excited to show me the cards that X and Y had given her, so I might reconsider and send some in for the children she talks about from nursery.

There is no way I'll be sending Christmas cards to all 30 people in my office though!

choudeBruxelles · 18/12/2008 09:07

Just got back from nursery. DS has another two cards. One is from a boy who DS mentions sometimes. The other i'd never heard of asked DS who it was and he just looked blankly at me.

I don't care what people think if they don't get cards from DS. The other DCs will still play with him if they don't get cards they're 2 ffs.

Umlellala · 18/12/2008 09:15

I don't do work ones either or people I see all the time.

I did however do them this year with 2halfyo dd to hand out at playgroup. But she is my PFB and there are only 6 children there, and I thought she would find it fun (she did!), and cos it's only 6 cards, she happily scribbled in each 'writing'. I cunningly gave them out on Tues so she would get some back (though she was happy to just give them tbh).

One of the little boys handed them out with no name just 'love from Oliver' - thought this was genius idea.

mm22bys · 18/12/2008 10:26

Don't do it, it is ridiculous on so many levels.

YANBU

deckchair · 18/12/2008 12:01

YANBU.

Dd's preschool has a postbox where they are encouraged to post them and later in the day are given out.
The first one she got was from her teachers!
I told DD I had 6 cards and she could chose who to send the 6 to. She was fine with that.

My CM saw one parent busily scribbling all the names of the peg hooks one day earlier this week. One card arrived the day after so I presume Charlie's mum had been busy the night before.

piscesmoon · 18/12/2008 12:12

If they have a post box and can manage to write their own name it is a bit different, but I don't think you need to do everyone.

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mytetherisending · 18/12/2008 13:52

Glad that I escaped with only one card
Presumably the other parents are all -tight- -miserable- sensible parents too
Bah humbug!!LOL

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mytetherisending · 18/12/2008 13:53

damn my crossing out
tight miserable I will do it!

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choudeBruxelles · 18/12/2008 19:12

I've just succumbed and written four cards for DS's friends at nursery. well the kids that he regularly talks about.

christmasiana · 18/12/2008 19:17

YANBU at all, i think that it's madness for parents to be writing cards for children, the children really don't seem to care, i just don't get it at all, massive waste of paper! i have had a card from every child DD is at nursery school with and didn't do one back... ooo i am baaaaad

notevenamousie · 18/12/2008 19:20

My dd is two and on her first day at nursery (on Dec 8th) I was given The Christmas Card List (total = 14 children though, not 30). I have done it, because I am new. And dd has been in bliss opening the cards and directing their sticking on the wall, which surprised me a lot, tbh. YANBU though.