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Original poster

To be irritated by having to fully stock my parents kitchen with food in order to stay for a week?

42 replies

taliac · 17/12/2008 15:39

We are going to my parents for Christmas, and as they usually live off pub lunches and ready meals I'm currently doing a big Sainsbos online shop for them so we can eat and feed the children normally.

I know IABU because they are paying for it.

But I'm irritated because

a) I've got enough to do,

b) I'm worried about how they are eating day to day when I can see that their usual weekly shop consists of biscuits, chocolate, ready meals and fags

and c) Really I want to be a kid again for a week and have someone look after ME for a change, but it just won't happen because they are getting older now and not as healthy as they once were.

Give me a slap please, and tell me to get on with it!

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Coldtits · 17/12/2008 15:41

YABU but you knew that.

It's quite normal to be irritated, just not reasonable.

PuppyMonkeyNuts · 17/12/2008 15:42

get on with it!

When I get older I too will live off pub meals and biscuits. Yum.

And just remember...

It's CHRISTMASSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!! Yay!!!!

DaidiNaNollag · 17/12/2008 15:45

YABU, talia, sorry! They are entitled to live how they want to now you have flown the nest! I was reminiscing recently about how little we used to buy in when it was just me and dh and how there was a lot more money for wine!
Having said that, my Mum goes to a lot of trouble when we are visiting to cook nice meals so I am lecturing you from my spoilt daughter perspective which really isn't fair!

georgimama · 17/12/2008 15:45

If you were expected to pay for all of it, I would say YANBU. A contribution would be normal though, for a week's stay with parents.

If you are not paying for any of it, and they just want you to organise it for them (if they are getting older perhaps they just can't face doing a full shop especially at this time of year, and online! My mother would have heart failure!) then I'd say you are lucky and YABVU!!!!

georgimama · 17/12/2008 15:46

When DH and I are retired we are going to the pub every day for our lunch if we can afford it, definitely.

harleyd · 17/12/2008 15:46

omg i cant wait to be old and live off pub grub
and fags and biscuits

MincePirateCat · 17/12/2008 15:47

i thought you meant you had to pay for it! At least they are making sure you have what you need, they are prob so out of touch with what's normal to have in for hungry appetites.

MincePirateCat · 17/12/2008 15:48

lol @ harleyd.

fantastic!!!

ScottishMummy · 17/12/2008 15:49

hell they are living the life they want to live after the graft of child rearing.good on them

you arent even mildly inconvienced,they arer paying.you have the hump bacause you want them to run around in style of doting parents

well,lookey likey they have other ideas

so no more grumbles.order yourself some wine,choccies,ready meals too

Coldtits · 17/12/2008 15:51

I'm with HarleyD

I'm going to live on supernoodles and crisps and fags and gin and hookers.

PingpingsatonSantasface · 17/12/2008 15:51

YABU especially as they are paying for it. Least if you do the shopping you can choose what you want.

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taliac · 17/12/2008 15:52

Oh I am BU, I know I am!

And they are so tolerant, even when I go through the kitchen cupboards and throw away all their expired food..

They don't notice it you see, because they never cook!

I think its just that at Christmas, you really do want to be a kid again, and have everything done for you. Or I do, anyway!

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taliac · 17/12/2008 15:53

Hookers, Coldtits!!!!

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ScottishMummy · 17/12/2008 15:53

wish i could live on gin,ready meals,pub,chocolate and be a big ole lush with hookers shoes

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taliac · 17/12/2008 15:54

Exactly Scottishmummy!

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Anna8888 · 17/12/2008 15:54

Well, I know how you feel about wanting to be looked after in your parents' home.

But look at it this way - they seem to be completely out of practise at catering for a family. So at least you get to choose the food and they are paying - if they chose, God only knows what food you would be eating.

ScottishMummy · 17/12/2008 15:55

i would be lush of the week every week.aw fur coat an nae knickers,come fuck me shoes

BouncingTinsel · 17/12/2008 15:55

I'm planning to do the same as Coldtits when I am in my dotage minus the hookers and plus a load of cats!

sicksantadenier · 17/12/2008 15:56

how old are your parents op?

ScottishMummy · 17/12/2008 15:57

naw no cats - bounty bars and gin.afternoon tv and bawdy jokes top of my voice in the pub

yomellamoHelly · 17/12/2008 16:00

We're doing the same. Staying with PIL. I've done a Tescos shop for the 9 days. PIL prefer to go to the supermarket every day, but I can't be doing with hanging around for them to get back (they get up 11-11:30 and a trip takes an hour and a half to two hours) and make lunch and I also feel it takes too big a chunk out of the day. Their basics don't resemble my basics at all either so the store cupboards don't have anything to offer. PIL contribute their share - so you're doing well really. I cook for everyone too during the day and do half the evening meals (or buy for, prepare ingredients in a pile and get out recipe for dh to do it (but that's another story!)).

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taliac · 17/12/2008 16:03

Parents are in their 60's but years of living a lot like this have had their effect so they are not as healthy as they could be..

I guess they're just not really up to it these days. Mum did a sausage casserole last time we stayed, and it was made from a mix, with undercooked sausages.

I wouldn't mind, but my Mum was a fab cook when we were little - old fashioned English stuff, stews and roasts and cakes and puddings.

So as you say Anna, its prob for the best!

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jingleMAMADIVAsbells · 17/12/2008 16:06

I thought someone's parents were as ignorant as my MIL there LOL. Apparently not...

We evisit her for a week, she earns twice the amount we do and when we come down she doesn't buy anything andI mean literally we buy a weeks worth of shopping and I cook too she doesn't bother but thing that puzzles me, she is 22 stone and no offence to her or anyone else that sizebut you dont get there by not eating do you. Seems to me she just doesnt buy food when we are coming down because she knows we will have to buy.

Now I'm not saying she should buy everything but a pint of milk and summit for tea that night would be good so I wouldn't need to get off a bloody 6 hour train ride with my 2.5YO and go do a weeks shop.

Anyway, sorry am ranting

YABU because atleast they are paying.

jujumaman · 17/12/2008 16:07

You know you are bvu.

But I totally sympathise

I was selfishly looking forward to five day at ils doing nothing as is usually the case while mil slaves in the kitchen (her choice, she loves slaving away for her sons and dh). But now mil has broken her wrist so it will be all hands on deck - but in a strange kitchen and having to cook what mil would like which is not at all to my taste. So if you can cook what you actually want to eat that's a result, imo. Good luck, keep necking the brandy.

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taliac · 17/12/2008 16:08

Really, I think what I am annoyed by is the fact that I am no longer a care free teenager, and in fact I am a care worn 30 something mum of 2.

In fact, I am my Mum!

Suddenly I understand exactly why they are going out, having fun and not cooking ever now that they can!

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