To want to grass up ex p for benefit fraud?

[tessofthedurbervilles]

He has abandoned me pregnant and although he is actively dating other women he is too busy / skint to put fuel in his car to visit or text and enquire about the baby....I am soooo angry and know for a fact that he is fiddling money and claiming tax credits he is not entitled to - a pet hate of mine. Would grassing him up make me a psycho ex or am I being justified?

i would say i understand why, but it would be bad karma for you and the baby. u dont know some point in the future YOU might have to cheat a little bit otherwise u wont be able to get by.
just a thought xx

You could do but I think you'd feel guilty for doing it in anger. Forget him, he is a waste of time.

Wouldn't blame you if you did though.

Yes do it, its benefit fraud, no matters whos doing it.

YANBU

I wouldn't do it, unless he's trying to claim tax credits or something in respect of the baby - as that would affect you being able to claim yourself.

You can't - I tried, but because I was the "vitriolic ex" they told me they weren't going to do anything because I was doing it for "spite" (even though I wasn't!)

You can report anonomously(sp?)
However, am not sure if it is accurate, but I have heard they will not investigate benefit fraud unless there are 3 or more reports.

I think you'll end up feeling bad because you did it in anger but it is the right thing to so, cheating is cheating.

I have to say though, I couldn't do it, I just don't have it in me. I really am totaly pathetic at times.

Benefit cheats are thieves, pure and simple, they are thieving money that is earmarked for people who are in genuine need, and they are sponging of the back of hard working people, the majority of them who work in jobs they hate.

Its up to you if you want to report him, but I am at the person who said 'you might need to cheat later on'.

I know one thing after many years on this earth 'what goes around comes around', he will lose in one way or another if you report him or not.

Do it. He's stealing and you know about it. Doesn't matter who he is, relative, ex, neighbour. They're stealing.

I am so shocked that they didn't act because it was an ex that reported the fraud.....crikey that is shocking.

I am shocked that anyone thinks you shouldn't do it. Benefit fraud is stealing. He is stealing from you, me and everyone else.

Of course you should shop him.

Get someone unrelated to do it: give them all the details... thats one way round it

Lewisfan thats shocked me so they let people get away with benefit fraud just because they think you might be a disgruntaled ex, no wonder poeple get away with it.

tess can you get someone to report it for you, or do it anonamously? It should be reported, benefit fraud is wrong, he is taking tax payers money that he has no right to so you are doing other people a favour by reporting, therefore karma will not come a bite you on the bum, might take a chuck out of his arse, hopefully

Lewisfan thats shocked me so they let people get away with benefit fraud just because they think you might be a disgruntaled ex, no wonder poeple get away with it.

tess can you get someone to report it for you, or do it anonamously? It should be reported, benefit fraud is wrong, he is taking tax payers money that he has no right to so you are doing other people a favour by reporting, therefore karma will not come a bite you on the bum, might take a chuck out of his arse, hopefully

Lewisfan, Can't you do it anonymously?
I thought you could but then I only know what the adverts say even though I'm sure I was reported once. (I was not cheating and never have btw)

Yes, report him. He sounds like a complete loser. Was he always like this or just since you split? It doesn't bode well for him being a good dad...

Definately report him, is theft pure and simple.

Am also shocked at the comment 'you might need to cheat later on' - er no, most people are honest.

I have told him he needs to stop doing it, regardless of whether I grass on him or not, I have said stop it. He responded by saying he will tell my unborn child that its mother is the bitch who tried to put its father in prison.....I am so angry I want to explode....

* when its older.....obviously he can tell it that now all he likes..

for you. Do you honestly want this sperm donor being a dad to your dc?

I agree with others, pass details on to friends and ask them to shop him. If he is fraudently claiming benefits it may affect any claims that you might need to make when the baby comes.