In asking my friend (and neighbour) for the tenner back she borrowed 4 weeks ago?

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I have known her for 7 years, she is a neighbour (and friend). We were out one night about 4 weeks ago and she borrowed £10 from me as she had forgot her purse.

She hasn't paid it back to me yet, she mentioned that fact that she owed it me about 2 weeks ago but I think has forgotten since.

I'd say we're about the same financially, I am not hard up but not rich either and won't miss the tenner but rather ridiculously it is niggling me that she hasn't paid it back (she is not hard up I don't think - about the same as me). Am I being a tight arse?

Shall I just let it go? It'd be excruciatingly embarrassing if I asked her for it back now wouldn't it?

Next time you are somewhere and you dont have your purse, say God can I borrow...Oh yeah you ove me that tenner from that night we went out...
She will be embarrased she forgot i bet

She hasn't forgotten, you don't forget that sort of thing, is she avoiding you ?

I would ask for it back. Be ultra casual; "Hey I don't spose you've got that tenner on you have you, only I could do with it for blahblah..."
She will be the one that's embarrassed and you'll feel so much better for having done it.

I bet she's forgotten, time of year and all that.

She may have forgotten, i would. Make sure you ask her for it back soon, because if you wait 6 months she will be mortified!

you round with some mince pies, knock on door "Hi, tis me with an offering 'cos I'd like my tenner back" big grin on your face.

LOL Katie- I'm sure she has forgotten, she's quite scatty. She's defo not avoiding me, we see each other every day (kids same age and at same school).

I feel so embarrased after 4 weeks though, the longer I leave it the more the embarrassment factor will rise won't it?! Whatever I say I'll look like a tight arse!

I had this with quite a close friend. it was £60 and I had to ask several times. It got easier each time.

quite liking sleighgirl's approach.

I expect she has forgotten. Many years later I still remember with having forgotten to repay a loan.

It was hideous.
I was really glad that my friend reminded me as the other prospect was remembering on my own weeks later and feeling even worse ( were it possible).

I repaid and bought a big box of chocolates on top next payday.

It was probably good though as it was the last time I ever borrowed money from a person ( rather than a bank)
I HATE borrowing money

So you all think I should ask for it back then? Yes am liking Sleighgirls approach, or when I drop their Christmas card round I could write in it something like "Feel free to drop a tenner in my card!", in the hope it jogs her memory.....oh god I hate these situations...am getting a nervous sweat on thinking about it...

Ah I see you're alright then.

I leant somebody £160 two months ago so she didn't have to tell her DH she'd crashed the car.
I saw her in Karen Millen a few days ago buying a new dress, she did get a 50% discount as another friend works there, anyway my "friend" has been avoiding me ever since so am not sure how to handle that one.
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Oh god Katie thats awful - now I'm fretting about a tenner but that must be a nightmare. What are you going to do?

KatieDD that is bad!!!!!!!!!!!! Think you'll just have to be direct and perhaps ask for a postdated cheque for her next pay day or something?

I don't know tbh probably wait until after Christmas and then ask for it I guess. Even if she pays it back I still have gone off her for buying the dress when she owes me
I will never ever lend anything ever again though, lesson learnt the hard way.

I had a similar situation a few weeks ago - a Mum that I don't know that well borrowed some money as she had forgotten her purse. Over the next few days she then acknowledged me but didn't mention it and after 3 days I was sure she had just forgotten. I just decided to front it and ask her for it back - she was really embarrassed and genuinely I think it had slipped her mind. Better to be direct I think than let it fester.

You lot have inspired me! I am going to make it my mission tomorrow to mention it to her. God I'm going to have to practise sounding ultra casual and non petty now aren't I?

Just an update for you if anyones interested.

She played into my hands today. I was going to the shop after school and she asked me to get her something (no money offered). I said ('in a total light hearted this hasn't bothered me at all way', which probably came out in a 'I'm a petty tight arse way'), "oooh I'll add it to the tenner you already owe me, I'm going to have to tot you up a bill at this rate ha ha ha'. She just went "Oh yes I owe you a tenner don't I"

She has not been round with it.

She now owes me £11.50. Bugger.

LOL

would it be easier to ask her to get you something on the way back - couple of bottles of wine?

So really you've asked for it twice. Third time will be embarrassing!

Poor you, i don't know what to suggest. Maybe make out you REALLY need it for a tray of eggs or something.

Sorry, i'm useless .

Think I'm going to have to write it off to experience aren't I?! I'll look upon it as my festive deed of goodwill and try and feel good about my tighter than a gnats arse generous forgiving nature.

And if she ever asks for anything else she can kiss my arse

i'd let it go...

She is taking the mickey!

Fair enough if she'd "forgotten" the original £10 BUT when asking you to buy something for her why didn't she give you the money to buy it with? Hmm? Hmm?

TBH I think she is the one being tighter than a gnat's arse . She's got some front, getting you to go the shops for her AND not offering any money AND still owing you £10, I would be mortified.

Here's what to do IMO: knock on her door, say "Hi, can I have that £11.50 back please? I am on my way to the shops".

I'd let it go considering it's only £11.50.

I wouldn't. £11.50 feeds me and three DCs for a day. would you go without food for a day for your pal?

times are tight.

you gave it in good faith,time to jog her memory.on principle i would ask.