To think that this mum needs to lighten up?

[KateF]

dd2 is 7 and in Yr3. Two of her friends have had a falling out and Mum A has been in to the teacher and decreed that her child (A) is not to sit near or play with Child B ever again! This has upset dd2 and many of the other children as they are having to choose which child to play with. dd2 has been in tears worrying that Mum A will carry out her loudly voiced threat to have her daughter moved to the other Yr 3 class and the two mums were at each other in the playground today. I really think that Mum A should not be able to dictate who her child plays with in school when it is just a childish squabble that the kids have forgotten about already. How far do parental rights go?

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what did they fall out over?

The little girls already are but As mum keeps going on at the teacher that her daughter is not to have anything to do with B - it's ridiculous

Oh dear - yes she needs to lighten up and understand that the only thing you achieve by interfering in girly squabbles is making a horrid emotional mess!

Goodness knows what they fell out over-something to do with a playground game according to dd2. Teacher dealt with it in class but Mum A seems to have lost the plot and it is genuinely upsetting a lot of the children. Not nice to see parents shouting at each other

Blimey I agree, she'll end up with egg all over her for sure

Children fall in and out all the time. Chances are they'll all be best pals again by the end of the week regardless of what she thinks or decrees.

I'm sure we've all felt like marching in and saying all that, but it always amounts to a hill of beans by the end of the week, so I keep schtum these days unless it's big time serious.

Also it's a big expectation from the teachers to implement that.

she's sounds a real pita

She needs to GROW UP, never mind lighten up.

People like this have too much time IMO.

Yes, I really hope she's not going to be like this every time her dd has a falling out - at this age it happens all the time. This is a lovely class and they all get on really well, no need for parents to wade in as teacher is more than capable of handling things (I help out so have seen her in action).

I don't talk to any of the other mums but apparently there has been a falling out between the mums and they are telling their kids not to play with certain others.

Also she is disempowering her dd to deal with things in her own way.

People have to work alongside others with whom they have had disagreements or perhaps dislike. It's life and something you need to learn.

I very much doubt that teachers 'work to order' on matters like this - the teacher will do what the teacher thinks is right when s/he is running the class! Also I doubt whether you can just get children moved from class to class at will. People do over-estimate their importance, don't they?

Anyway, steer clear and take no notice. And emphasise to your dd that it is important that each and every person makes thier own decisions about who to be friends with, and no-once can dictate that.

I'm quite surprised that the teacher has gone along with it at all-in fact she has not changed the classroom seating and the two girls were sat together on the carpet this morning, but she is reminding them at playtime, presumably because Mum A is being quite forceful about it. My dd has SEN and is finding the whole thing very stressful-thank goodness it's almost the holidays!

I don't bother trying to keep up with who is/isn't dd1's friend anymore. It hurts my head. Mum A sounds like a loon with too much time on her hands.

Like Blu says, the teacher is probably dealing with it in her own way; and just nodding placatingly in the right places at the mum.

Teachers surely have a 'way' of coping with overwrought parents.