... to expect my Auntie to remember my DP's name after more than two years..

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and not just send a Christmas card to me and "Bump"? Or at least write SOMETHING to acknowledge my baby has a father?

Or am I just 38 weeks pregnant and grumpy?

Maybe you're the virgin Mary?

Yes! That's it! I am the Virgin Mary.

I shall send her a Christmas card by return post and sign myself as that.

YANBU. But you have made me feel better. DP has a "tricky" surname (ie it's not anglo saxon). After nearly 4 years, most of that living together and just months before we're due to get married, most people I know, including most of my family, cannot spell or pronounce his name.

For the record, it's not THAT tricky. It's just not English.

My DH has friends, a couple, who we've seen regularly over the 12 years I've been with DH. But every fing Christmas they send a card addressed only to DH, and every fing Christmas they misspell my name (never the same misspelling - variations on a theme) inside the card. It drives me crazy, so no, YANBU.

Dear BVM. I wonder are there any apocryphal stories about Mary's stubborn aunty to comfort you with?!

is she old? I have old relatives who think that 14 years is just flash in the pan, but a month wedded couple would be for keeps. Is stupid, but how they are. Wouldn't let it bother me - like does he care about Christmas cards?

I am probably not a good person to comment as I have a rather take it or leave it attitude to relatives!

Two years ago, my DH's good friend (i.e. they were each others best men, and DH is godfather to his friend's dd) rang us to say 'We're writing you a Christmas card and I can't remember what you said you'd called ds2'.

Didn't really object to them forgetting, but thought this was so rude. What's wrong with 'To DH, Hardbroom & family', or 'To you all', or just 'from [insert name of ex-friend]'.

So no. YANBU.

How many people in your family? I cant remember the names of half my cousins let alone their partners. Maybe she has a mental block about names?

I rang my SIL to check the spellings of her kids names so I could get them right in their presents . Also had to ring and ask her address cos tho I know where she lives I dont know the number or the raod name. Dp is even worse than me at things liek that.

at least she sent you a card and remembered taht you are havign a baby.

She's 55.

It makes me laugh, really. Not a particularly big family, though we're not as close as we once were.

I'm a bit OCD about it all though, I have been known to check Friends Reunited and Facebook to make sure I've got peoples OHs and DCs names right, and now I write them all in my special address book so I can never forget.

My special trick if I'm really stuck is to send an email a couple of weeks before Christmas cards are due out, I ask after the children, and always throw in "How old are they now?" Inevitably get back "Sophie is 10 now and Ben is 4" - problem solved!

I have a special address book too! Mostly because my sil has a squillion children with odd made-up names that I would never be able to spell without a cheat to copy off.

That's a good tip with the "how old?" email. I shall be using...