To drop cousins off my Christmas card list?

[changer22]

They are actually DH's cousins. Over the 18 years he and I have been together I have met them 3 times - at weddings.

Up until this year I have always sent a Christmas card, birth announcement cards, etc. but I don't think I can be bothered being good anymore. The final straw came last week when one of the children was missed off the card one of them sent.

It's a done deal really isn't it?

I have cousins that I haven't seen longer than that. One of the points, for me, of xmas cards is to keep in touch with people you don't see very often.

For the price of a stamp and card its not worth getting your knickers in a twist about.

They are sending you a card each year, its not like you never hear from them at all.

Just send them a card and list all your children's names on clearly. Between me, dp, and all our siblings and cousins and all the children, I have probably missed someone off or got a name wrong at some point.

Its christmas stop being so bah humbug and send them a card.

Yes but these are people I don't even know or have ever had a relationship with. Not friends from college I don't see anymore.

But they are your dp's relatives. Therefore he knows them and has a relationship with them.

So you send cards to YOUR people that you don't see anymore, but don't want to send them to dp's people that he doesn't see any more.

Am I just too sociable, I am wondering if you are for real with that last post.

If they are his cousins, why isn't he sending them a card, rather than you?

It's Christmas. Be nice. You will be happier.

Agree with SnowMuch; Your DH can send, if he's fussed.

They are very close relations-you might have a relationship with them one day. It is really up to your DP - let him decide, and write the card.

Very close relations? How many times has your dh seen his cousins OP?

I only see my cousins at funerals (in the last 6 years-I've seen them 3 times) and I can't remember the times before that-not since I was very small.

I don't send my cousins cards,waste of paper imo,we aren't a close family though.

I am close to my cousins-which is why I think she should leave it to DP.

They send you cards and they are your DCs blood relations. A card takes 30 seconds to write and very little money, it ensures some contact between your DCs and extended family. I think it is worth the effort.

However, resentfully sending cards it hardly the christmas spirit so maybe its not the right thing given how you feel.

I think that's the thing isn't it - "resentfully sending them a card?" Not that I resent it I just don't see much point sending them to people I don't know. I am wishing people a happy Christmas I wouldn't recognise if I walked past in the street. DH has only seen them at the same weddings as me, so 3 times in 18 years. We aren't in touch with the aunt or uncle either (apart from the weddings and Christmas cards) so we don't know anything about them.

I haven't got a bee in my bonnet about it, I just stopped to wonder why we do it, that's all. The fact that they missed a child off (the aunt and uncle now write 'and family') means that they aren't really interested in us either. We didn't receive any congratulations cards on the birth of the 3 children so I guess they feel as non-plussed as us. It just takes someone to break it off.