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to have made sure this woman had a parking ticket for christmas?

68 replies

MamaMaiasaura · 12/12/2008 22:24

I know the P&C parking space thing can cause rucks here but i have to admit i saw red today.

Looking for parking in supermarket and see 3 women exit car with zero kids. All looked physically fit and in work clothes. No spaces for me with baby... So window rolls down after i give a little toot. Lady smiles, i smile and ask if she has any children with her. She says no so i ask if she could move her car so that i can park in the allocation p&c space. She said no (expected) and told me to fuck off. I childishly said you are being a bit of a selfish cow taking up those spaces. More abuse from her and she goes into shop.

I find a non P&C space and there is a woman parked 2 cars away with 2 little ones who she physically cant get her children in the car. I help out by watching her 2 as she gets out fo space.

Then i go and check on the car in the p&c space for carseats and for disabled badge. None of either. I report to supermarket who report to traffic attendent.

I dont think i was unreasonable.. but i did think of keying car and perhaps that would have been!

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VirginBoffinMum · 13/12/2008 08:53

www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/01/12/earlyshow/main1203514.shtml You lose some!

news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/europe/89422.stm But you can also win some!

I reckon a good British defence would be a fetus over the age of 24 weeks and therefore legally viable ....

littleboyblue · 13/12/2008 09:02

My dp hates me being confrontational in public so I don't do it often but a few weeks ago, we were all going shopping, drove around carpark looking for the p&c spaces, spotted one but a woman got there just before us, she got out with a child of about 13!! I got out and said to her that I didn't think 'child' included someone who is old enough and capable enough to get in and out of car on their own without any assistance and that I think she should have some consideration for others and give up that spot ansd got the same response "fuck off".
I have never parked in a p&c space before having children, would never have dreamt of it, I really don't know how people have the front really. Same as disabled spaces, parking infront of the slope section of the pavement, using lifts when your legs work fine etc etc

VirginBoffinMum · 13/12/2008 09:22

We need a vigilante crutch-wielding crowd of pregnant women with SPD to sort these people out. I will lead the way doing a Madame Liberte, with one breast exposed and simultaneously waving a union jack tied to my other crutch. I tell you, when they see how deranged I am they will move their car sharpish.

ThePregnantMerryYuleWitch · 13/12/2008 09:34

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LynetteScavo · 13/12/2008 09:46

YANBU - she told you to fuck off insted o moving her car.

If I can get a parking ticket - 2 in one week - for bing 10 mins over my parking ticket time becuase I was held up at work - she can jolly well have a ticket for being an arse.

Twiga · 13/12/2008 11:08

VBM - the physio has got me doing 6-8 sets of pelvic floor excercises plus 6-8 sets of pulling in lower tummy muscle (prob the core stab ones you've been set). Then I've also been doing 2-3 sets of excercises which involve being on all fours and just moving from the waist down - physio describes as pretending to have a tail which you tuck in and stick out for one and then wagging from side to side for the other - looks stupid but really eases any si joint pain. On top of all that I've had an appt with her every week to a fortnight depending on how things have been going and she's done some hands on manipulation of my lower back and si joints which has really worked too. Can't praise her enough for how well she has made me feel when compared to the rubbish care i've had in previous two pgs - it's made such a diff not to feel totally crippled this time round. That said still pretty stiff in the mornings, have to stand up at night to get turned over in bed but as I say at least I can move in relative comfort and am still able to walk reasonable distances. Think location has a lot to do with care recieved - previous area was hopeless and had shortage of physios.

Podrick · 13/12/2008 11:15

I think keying cars is worse than the bad behaviour that inspires it tbh

VirginBoffinMum · 13/12/2008 11:17

Cheers for this, Twiga, mine has refused to give me hands on manipulation because she says there is nothing that can be done. Is she wrong then, do we think? No shortage of physios around here, they just don't seem to be able to help anyone.

katiepotatie · 13/12/2008 11:47

YANBU this really annoys DH and I, especially at our local Asda, where boy racers sit in the car in P&C spaces to eat their McDonalds!

On another note, DH and I were in Tescos the other day without DD, so parked in an ordinary parking space (between the white lines) only to be shouted at for being too close to the woman next to us, as she couldn't get her kids in! (ages 9 & 10 ish)DH said you should have parked in the P&C spaces then, only for her to say that no we should have parked somewhere else!!!!

You cannot win

crazyloon1 · 13/12/2008 12:05

Well done. Very sensible and serve her right.

I had a pop at a bloke who did this a few months ago. He was equally nasty but it was too late to report him as he was leaving by then. I felt awful afterwards, really horrid to be sworn at when you've asked someone to move. Be careful - I think I might have got a punch if I had persisted.

kittywise · 13/12/2008 12:10

If i cant get p&c spaces i will take up 2 normal spaces.

I would have keyed her car, she might feel in the right but she would be really pissed off and out of pocket.

crazyloon1 · 13/12/2008 12:14

I wouldn't key anyone's car. Fantasise about it, yes...but not do it. It would make you feel like crap - you have to be the better person.

I used to daydream about wrecking ex's motorbike, luckily I never did see it parked so I didn;t get the chance.

Now I am so glad I didn't. It would have stayed with me forever - I know now I didn't do anything wrong, he remains the tosser in our non-relationship

NorbertDentressAngel · 13/12/2008 12:14

YANBU -I would have reported her too.

The other day some idiot in a big 4WD thing had parked right on a junction outside the Post Office. It was causing absolute chaos, bringing the town to a standstill and was incredibly dangerous.

I was incredibly close to just getting out of my car and marching into the PO to shout " Who is the brainless idiot that owns the (whatever it was) which has brought the town to a standstill? Could you move it please". I would have been guaranteed a good audience too as theres always a queue .

In fact the more I think about it, the more I wished I had done it.

(can I add that there are some short stay parking spaces including disabled ones right outside so the driver could have waited for one of those to become free if they had to park outside for whatever genuine reason)

Kristingle · 13/12/2008 12:18

you are right to report her
and to help the other mother
and NOT to key her car

VirginBoffinMum · 13/12/2008 12:19

I wouldn't damage someone's car either, but magificent fantasies on MN ... now that's quite another thing ...

DoesntChristmasDragOn · 13/12/2008 12:25

I would like to nomitate the twat outside DSs schol who parked on the yellow zigzags, half up on the not-very-wide pavement and then got out (whist his perfectly able child got out to go to school) and began to tart about getting his coat from the back of the car, putting it on, talking it off etc. Even whilst I told him he a) couldn't park on the zig zags and b) couldn't park half up the pavement. He just muttered, said yes, and carried on farting about.

I usually limit myself to a glare but this man was such a twat I couldn't help myself from letting rip.

Twiga · 13/12/2008 14:24

VBM - I can only speak as I find and feel that the combination of excercise and hands on has really made al the diff. Not cured but def made things more bearable, as it's mostly sa hormone thing to some extent it can't be fixed til bubs arrives but doing nothing doesn't make sense either. Big diff in attitude - last time I couldn't get anyone to refer me til I was nearly 28wks wasn't seen til 32 at which point was told nothing can be done here have some crutches.

LilySwalLoosHerTurkeyBaster · 13/12/2008 14:32

Def yanbu can't believe she told you to f off!
And good luck trying for no3!
How is ds (pop back over to Jan thread and fill us in)!! Will be his bday any time ??

ChristmasFairySantAsSLut · 13/12/2008 14:33

hehe Awen ....I like your style!

SleighGirl · 13/12/2008 14:36

why can't the supermarkets just put the P&C spaces further away from the shop door, those of those who need the extra width would still use them and the lazy folk would park in normal spaces because they wouldn't have so far to walk!

tootyflooty · 13/12/2008 15:19

what a bitch, I stopped using p & c spaces when my twins were out of car seats.I hope she got a ticket, or at the least an announcement over the tanoy. I have knocked wing mirrors and caused little "accidental" scratches when trying to squeeze past cars on the pavement with a double buggy, that sort of inconsiderate parkig really causes me angst. Good on you

neenztwinz · 15/12/2008 09:36

They should def put p&c spaces away from the store (but make sure there are trolleys there cos I have to leave the DTs in the car to go get a trolley)

I always try to 'accidentally' scratch cars with my double buggy if they are on the pavement but always chicken out at the last second and pull the buggy away - I am just too nice. Sometimes tho I leave it too late and I hear a very satisfying scratch sound as metal hits metal (not so nice after all then )

BouncingTinsel · 15/12/2008 09:43

Asda carparks will fine people who abuse P&C spaces as well as disabled spaces.

I agree that p&c spaces should be nearer the back - best arrangement would be around the outside with pavement access to the store so parents aren't having to walk through the carpark with kids in tow, IYSWIM

Sonnet · 15/12/2008 09:44

OP - I don't think you were being unreasonable at all - well done for not actually keying the car!

at people actually keying cars and "accedently" scratching them with buggies - well out of order.
I understand people shouldn't park on pavements and believe me I understand trying to get buggies past but by scratching the cars you are making yourself just as bad as the idiot who parked their in the first place!!!!
rant over

georgiemum · 15/12/2008 09:45

you really should have let her tyres down for good measure.