To change holiday tickets from ex p's to my brothers name?

[cantpickyourfamily]

Exp and I were meant to go on holiday for xmas but we are really not geting on at the moment.

Yesterday he said he is not coming and will not pay me back my £600 that I paid for it on my credit card, and was laughing say he hopes it 'stings me'. Then later on changed his mind saying that maybe he could be convinced to go. The thing is I dont want to convince him to go, I feel like he is too much of an attention seeker and if I want the holiday to be enjoyable for me and dd I will have to try to keep the piece and pretend I want to be around him when I don't.

I could possibly change the ticket into my brothers name and he could come but he will not be able to pay the full price for the ticket and will prob only have a few hundred. But I am thinking maybe this would be better then going with exp who will ruin my holiday and sulk as I will def not want to be intamite with him.

[cantpickyourfamily]

I agree it is not nice for dd to see us not getting on and having a bad atmosphere at home.

Well wish me luck as am going to call him now and say the airline will refund me some of the money for his ticket if I cancell it. I know he is going to go crazy and be really awarkward about seeing dd now.

God I am not looking forward to it...

[J2O]

how did the phonecall go?

[cantpickyourfamily]

i told him i am going to cancell his ticket, and he went crazy shouting and saying he was going to kill me. Then came to my house shouting and smashed my frount door which is glass, then ran off before the police came.

The thing is that is a communal door so now my neighbours know that it was him. And i had to pay £120 to get it boarded up for the night, and another £100 for the glass so a family member can fix it.

So now i am loosing out on alot more than just the holiday money....

[only1malteaser]

Oh no, are you ok? Was your DD present when he was doing this? Your daughter is very obviously your main priority and he is not contributing to her well being in anyway. You need to get him out of your life but I think you already know that. Will you be able to get a house sitter when you are away?

[MerryMadMarg]

Well, I guess that's just made your decision about any future relationship with him easier . You really need to consider getting a restraining order if this is the way he's going to carry on.

Can't you get the glass covered on building insurance? You know who did it, so they can take action against him for you, as he is the one who should be paying for the glass to be fixed.

[Freckle]

Did you contact the police? He should be charged with criminal damage as well as harassment possibly. You should see if you can claim for the cost of boarding up the door from your buildings insurance.

[cantpickyourfamily]

i'm ok, was pretty scared, but I am glad it has happened as it has made my decision easier to make regarding the future.

DD was sleeping when he did this and slept through the whole thing, but kept waking up after while the police were here.

I am going to get an injuction so he cannot come near me. I last called the polioce a few months ago when he was violent towards me and I now feel stupid for considering getting back with him. But am glad I was taking things slowly and did not jump into a relationship with him.

I rent my flat so do not think the landlord will let me claim on the insurance as my tenancy say if I or anyone that I know damages something I will have to pay for it.

The police said he might not be made to pay for the damage but might have to py a fine, which is no use to me. I am worried that he might next do something to my car.

He doesn't care that if I am out of pocket his daughter will be too.

[cantpickyourfamily]

yes the police came, also I had recorded him on my phone telling me i will not make it to next week as I will be dead.

[Judy1234]

In theory though may not be worth the hassle you can go to www.courtservice.gov.uk on to moneyclaimsonline and sue him on line with a credit card (you have to pay a court fee) for the cost of repairing the damage but may not be worth the hassle. If he does not pay you can send bailiffs in to recover goods to that value.

[cantpickyourfamily]

Do you have any idea how much it would cost to sue him online? As the damage was £220 intotal so prob wont get much back.

He already owes balifs money and they have not taken his furniture as yet.

[J2O]

shit head! I was worried that he may react like that, i really hope you are now going to change the ticket to your DBs name. Have you seen a solicitor to take steps to get an injuction? he is threatening you, so you should get one. I hope you're ok

[cantpickyourfamily]

i am in the process of trying to change it to my brothers name now. I will get an injuction out I will call on monday to look into it.

I knew he would be angry but didn't really expect him to smash my door, what a looser...

[J2O]

Good luck with sorting the injuction out. when do you go on holiday?

[cantpickyourfamily]

we go on sat, I have not even looked into getting the injuction yet as have so much to do before we go, but I think he is being kept in prision as the office I spoke to said he thinks he will send him there, but has not got back to me yet to let me know what is happening.