I dont want to alienate my brother, but his wife is unbearable. She has caused so much offense but he sticks by her. Recently we nursed my mother thru rapid aggressive ovarian cancer. She didnt visit but sent a nasty note to her death bed. At the burial she had a fit as I didnt comfort her as I was cradling my sobbing 19 year old brother. we now have to share the first Christmas together. I want to explain to my brother and her that I have no capacity for friendship for her during this time. I do not want a row but want her to respect my personal space. I will endure Christmas lunch in her presence but I do not want her to kiss me (I find it distressing) or speak to me. Is this an unreasonable request. I am worried that if i say something my brother will not come. My other sisters would not forgive me if this happened. Maybe i should not go?