in thinking this is aimed at me and very childish

[Marne]

Dd has had alot of trouble at school involving a certain child, she has been pushed, hit, picked on and shut in a cupboard. Being the kind person i am i made friends with the mother of this child and dd1 went over to play etc..

Most of the parents at the school try and keep their distance from this child as she has been violent to alot of the children but i have put myself out and stuck up for them when other parents have moaned about her to me.

A few days ago one of the mums started talking to me about the little girl, i stuck up for her and said how well she had been doing as she is the youngest in the class and almost 10 months younger than my dd, i said she was a sweet little thing etc.. etc.. even though my dd is scaired of her.

Any way the mother posted a comment on facebook (you know that bit on your profile were you can write what you are thinking etc..), first she wrote 'i wish the mothers at school would stop talking about my child' (fair enough) and then 'can't believe how sad the mums at school are.newsflash:its a naughty board not a life sentence!!!'.

I am the only mother from the school on her face book so i take it that its aimed at me.

I admit to talking about her dd but i was sticking up for her not slagging her off, i couldn't care less if her dd's name is on the naughty board as long as its not for hitting my dd IYKWIM.

Am i being over sensitive? I think i will just stay out of her way and give up trying to be friends with her.

Since i had to phone the school about her dd (a few weeks ago) she has hardly talked to me, she phoned me to apoligise but doesn't realy talk unless i talk to her outside school.

It's probably her neighbour she's talking about then! It's certainly not you. Since you're the only mother from school on her facebook, she most likely feels it's safe to vent on there.

"Since i had to phone the school about her dd (a few weeks ago) she has hardly talked to me"

Oh no - AIBU by stealth...

Why don't you just post a comment saying "oh what's happened, saw the other day doing xxx, so sweet" or some such nonsense

or if you are good friends something like "they're a coven of witches, ignore them mate"

oh, I see - I didn't realise you had called the school about her dd, she may have taken that personally if she knows you did. But it still sounds as if she may be referring to the others and doesn't relaise she has an ally of sorts.

Thats what i thought Blu, i had to phone the school as dd was in tears after her dd had been violent towards her, it was my last resort as usualy i would have spoken to her first but as this hadn't worked and she was still being mean to dd i felt it was the right thing to do. The mother said she understood this and was glad i phoned the school as her dd will take it more seriously. We spoke for almost an hour on the phone (mainly her apoligising to me) but since she just says 'hi' and bye' to me. I thought all was ok.

Agree with jimjam & mascara, post a comment on the status. At least it makes it more chatty.

just picked dd up and the mother totally blanked me, didn't even say hello, i waved goodbye from the car and she looked away.

Dd is crying again as her dd has pushed her over again.

Marne - you've done your utmost to stick up for and include this little girl. Possibly the girl's mum is mortified by all the incidents, so is being frosty because of that. I would just leave it now, not be over friendly.

Not alot, aparently they are keeping her away from dd. Dd said they were playing together today and sat next to each other in the book corner. Dd tends to over react when it comes to pushing (a small tap can be a push to dd) and it doesn't take much to knock her over.

Would you feel comfortable having her DD over for short playdates? A bit of encouragement from you may help the little girl a lot.

A friend here as a little DS who was biting and hitting my DS. So everytime he was with us, we were eagle eyed, but I also, when he was, would pick him up and tell him how lovely he was playing. He also started daycare, and is a different child.

It may be the other little girl needs something like that in her life, a bit of a mentor. And if the playdates are at your house, you can quickly control any build up of nastiness towards your DD before it actually happens.

Just a thought.

Looking at it from the other side I'd hate for my DS to be labeled the bully, and if we were ineffectual at helping him not to be, I'd hope someone else might be able to assist, rather than just gossiping about the state of his behaviour.

This is the angle I was coming from.

Dd has poor balance because of her Aspergers, her 2 year old sister has knocked her over by brushing past her.

You sound like a lovely mum and I am sure it's not aimed at you at all. You sound really nice, which is why you are worried that she is aiming this at you.

She is probably just letting off steam and probably is fed up of the comments about her kid (even if most is warrented!).

I'd have assumed it was aimed at the childish b*tches who were slagging the little girl off to you.
I am far more likely to put something like that as my status when the person I'm ranting about ISNT a FB friend rather than talk about one of my FB friends like that in a status coment. I think you're being a bit paranoid.

ok, it turns out it was aimed at me and my friend/neighbour, she slagged our dd's off on face book , aparently are children are molicoddled . And aparently i slagged her off for dropping her kid outside the school gates instead of taking her in (like the rest of the parents do), she said my friends girl was a goody 2 shoes and her mother should get a life. My freind has read this and is very .

I have now removed her from my facebook

The children are 4 and 5 years old FGS.